My therapist once told me: "The guilt you feel for setting boundaries is a sign of how deeply you were trained to abandon yourself."
She was right.
That guilt isn't yours. It's left over from someone who punished you for having needs.
Women get prettier when our nervous system is regulated & we're not living in chronic stress. Longer hair, shinier hair, softer + glowier skin, no bloating, no breakouts, no mood swings. We’re our best version when we rest more, slow down, spend more time in the sun, eat warm foods, dance, frolic... Biologically we're wired to be whimsical
Complex trauma survivors often cannot cry when something is actually sad. But they will cry without warning at a commercial, a stranger's kindness, an animal being gentle with a child. The tear ducts are not broken. They just learned that crying at the real thing was too dangerous. So the grief rerouted. It comes out sideways, through whatever crack feels safe enough, because the actual door has been locked from the inside for a very long time.
A Divine Woman is the muse for men who wish to grow, but she will be the villain for those who refuse to change. She is the walking embodiment of ego death. She has rebuilt herself over and over again. Weak men are threatened by her, strong men are inspired.