greene

an old soul, a spirit junkie

[Today I Learned @TodayiLearrned]

Get rid of that back fat! 😩

[Dr Danish @operationdanish]

We now have evidence that gentle parenting doesn’t work.

Here’s an uncomfortable truth about parenting no one wants to say out loud:

The data is not kind to gentle parenting.

According to teenagers, strict curfews. strict bedtimes, screen limits, device drop off times, dedicated homework blocks, and sleepover restrictions IMPROVE higher relationship quality.

And yes, parenting difficulty goes up.

Of course it does. Leadership is harder than appeasement.

For the past decade we have been sold a watered down, Instagram friendly version of “gentle parenting” that often collapses into boundary avoidance, endless negotiation and emotional processing without enforcement. Parents terrified of saying no because they do not want to rupture connection.

But connection without authority is not connection. It is dependency.

When parents impose structure, the relationship improves.

Teenagers report better parent child relationship quality in homes with curfews and rules. Younger kids report better relationships in homes with screen limits and bedtimes. Even device drop off times correlate positively.

Why?

Because structure is not cruelty. Structure is love made visible.

A bedtime says: your brain matters more than your entertainment.

A screen limit says: your dopamine system is not fully developed and I will guard it until it is.

A curfew says: your safety matters more than your social standing.

That is not authoritarianism. That is caring.

Boundaries create friction. Friction creates growth. The parent absorbs the short term discomfort so the child does not pay the long term cost.

Children do not experience well calibrated limits as rejection. They experience them as stability. The human brain craves predictability. Predictability reduces anxiety. Reduced anxiety strengthens attachment.

That is why relationship quality goes up.

Notice something else in the data. The strongest effects are around time structure. Bedtime. Homework. Devices. Outside play. These are environmental constraints. They scaffold executive function.

The winning formula is not tyranny.

It is high warmth plus high structure.

The modern failure mode is high warmth plus low structure. That is just abdication of responsibility wrapped in empathy.

Children need leadership, not negotiation. They need adults who can tolerate their anger. They need boundaries that do not move every time emotions spike. They need someone whose prefrontal cortex is fully myelinated.

The harder path produces the stronger bond.

Because when a child feels that someone is strong enough to hold the line, they relax. And relaxed nervous systems build durable relationships.

[greene @greenevadiaries]

@Beno10_MFC The collars :)

[greene @greenevadiaries]

@fatimaboschfdz Not to discredit your efforts, but challenging you to watch the competition , compare your performance with Cote d'Ivoire, Philippines or Venezuela, actually even Miss Thailand... You had the most mediocre answer in BOTH Q&A rounds!! Its your dads business afterall!👎🏼👎🏼

[greene @greenevadiaries]

You had two sets of questions at the finals & Ms. Mexico gave mediocre answers to both! Ms. Venezuela aced both, Ms. PH did too! Even Côte d’Ivoire had a better answer. Booo 👎🏼#MissUniverse Next time you set criteria for the Q&A, make sure it actually does its job, to evaluate!

[Eminent_minds @minds_eminent]

The wheel of
STRESS MANAGEMENT

[The woman @Tarmeim]

Is it me or anyone else feels the same ?

[greene @greenevadiaries]

@ABSCBN Can you just remove this ad? Hindi worth it sa budget. I watched the show and its a waste of time. Anjie and River acting 🤮

[greene @greenevadiaries]

@itscamilleco Mej papansin 😂 Ikaw lang may gustong pag usapan ka di ka anamn trending. Nakikiride ka lang sa issue. Lol

Bread & Butter mo nga. Go mo yan!

[greene @greenevadiaries]

@rimurutempestuh Beautifully written. You’re good. :)

[greene @greenevadiaries]

@njmksan At si Fyang?? Standard big winner material based on your observations? Tigilan!

[greene @greenevadiaries]

manipulation at its finest 🤮

[greene @greenevadiaries]

@ABSCBNNews fells?

[greene @greenevadiaries]

Lee and I packed Trick or Treat candies later for the kids in our village! So fun! And ohhhh ~ I sneaked some in my mouth 😂

[The Figen @TheFigen_]

Moments when the "Queen of the Night" flower blooms one night a year.

[greene @greenevadiaries]

hiraaaaap 🥹

[greene @greenevadiaries]

Bakit ba pilit na pilit tong kanta ni Regine sa mga scenes ng #PamilyaSagrado ? Ang off ng timing di pa bagay sa scenes 🥲