THINGS SHE DESERVES WITHOUT HAVING TO ASK:
•to be chosen consistently
•love that doesn’t come with conditions
•a space where she can be fully herself
•someone who stays when it gets hard
•peace as a standard not a reward
Screw sleeping together. The real question is, can you still love me when I'm overthinking, sending 10 messages back to back asking for reassurance, making sure I'm still wanted, and you're not leaving when times get hard.
Sis, a Man who loves you, will naturally wanna feed you, take you out, call/ text you, buy you flowers & treat you like a priority. If he's not doing those things then he doesn't care about you. Believe me, a man will always ACT right for a girl he really WANTS !!
YOU CAN’T BUILD A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP IF YOU AVOID EVERY HARD CONVERSATION.
Shutting down, changing the subject, or walking away the moment things get uncomfortable isn’t maturity. It’s avoidance. Real growth is being able to sit in discomfort without turning it into distance. Grown love requires two people who can talk through it not run from it.
When a man doesn't change, it's not confusion; it's a choice. Men change for what they fear losing. If he knows he's hurting you and does nothing, that's your answer. A man who wants you fixes himself without being begged.If he isn't changing,he's already comfortable losing you.
meanwhile, I'm learning how to respond with calm instead of anger. I don't want to be right all the time i want to be understood. I don't want to prove a point, I want to build peace. That's growth for me now.