Him: “She is my wife. I have authority over my household.”
Me: “Being her husband doesn’t make you the owner of her life.”
He accused me of trying to destroy his marriage.
But the truth was that my sister had already been disappearing inside that marriage. The cheerful woman who once had dreams, friendships, ambitions, and a personality of her own had become frightened of making the smallest decision.
Eventually, she found the courage to leave and seek help.
What hurt me most was hearing her say:
“I thought marriage would give me a partner. Instead, I spent years asking permission to be myself.”
I don’t blame an entire religion for the cruelty of one man. But I will never accept anyone using religion as a weapon to imprison another human being.
Faith should never become an excuse for cruelty. A marriage should be a partnership, not a system in which one person has all the freedom and the other has none.
Me: “Why don’t you tell him you’ve had enough?”
My Sister: “I’ve tried. He says a good Muslim wife doesn’t challenge her husband. He tells me I’m committing sins every time I disagree with him.”
Me: “And what does he do when you ask him to treat you with kindness?”
My Sister: “He says men and women have different responsibilities, and I shouldn’t expect the same freedom he has.”
I eventually confronted him.
Me: “You married my sister, not a prisoner. Why does everything she does require your permission?”
Him: “You don’t understand Islam. I’m responsible for keeping my household religious.”
Me: “Then explain why you use religion to take away her freedom while enjoying every freedom yourself. You travel whenever you want, meet your friends, make financial decisions, and expect her to remain silent. Is that religious responsibility or simply control?”
My sister married a Muslim man who presented himself as deeply devoted to Islam. Before their wedding, he spoke constantly about religious discipline, modesty, family values, and the importance of having a wife who respected Islamic teachings.
At first, our family believed she had married a man with strong principles. But shortly after the wedding, we began noticing a disturbing change.
He started controlling what she wore, where she went, whom she spoke to, and whether she could visit our mother without his permission. He discouraged her from working and gradually isolated her from friends and family.
Whenever she questioned him, he had the same response:
“You’re my wife. Your duty is to obey me. I’m only protecting your faith.”
One afternoon, she called me crying…..
THERE IS WAR IN ISLAM
Something happened in a Ghanaian mosque this month that may be the beginning of many more in Islam.
A muslim lady decided to use her education to challenge an Imam. You know how education and Islam are like two parallel lines 🤣
Sit down, let me gist you. Make sure you have your popcorn and coke because this is going to be interesting.
So, Islam has different sects. There is shia, sunni, and more.
This lady is a shia muslim but the Imam is a sunni muslim. They don't see eye to eye. Each one believes the other one is wrong in their practice of Islam.
So, the Imam was trying to paint Shia muslims black to his congregation when the woman said she will not take it anymore.
She stood up and started challenging the Imam.
The most authentic hadith in Islam was written by a man who was born 175 years after Mohammed had died.
So, Al-Bukhari never saw Muhammed face to face. Even his own father, grandfather, and great-grandfather never saw Muhammed face to face.
But that is the man who wrote the stories about Muhammed that Muslims hold on to.
I hope you remember that Muhammed himself was born more than 500 years after Jesus. Yet, he claimed that Jesus never died but Allah made it appear so and Muslims believed him.
He also said that what people who saw Jesus face to face wrote about Jesus was not correct. It was the one that one demon that appeared to him inside a cave told him that is the correct one.
Anyway, let's come back to this lady.
This lady now asked the Imam that why should she believe that what someone who was born 175 years after Muhammed wrote about Muhammed is true? Why should she believe that man?
Can you see what happens when people begin to use their education?
She went ahead to challenge other things that Sunni Muslims claim. For example, Sunni Muslims pray based on what Al-Bukari wrote in the hadith.
The woman then asked the Imam one interesting question. She asked him, "If we are to pray based on what Al Bukhari wrote which is not in the Quran itself, then those people who lived and died before Al-Bukhari was born, how did they pray?"
Na so Imam sit down like who dem pour cold water for him body.
We will continue to watch the movie and I believe many more Muslims will wake up and begin to question the religion.
Anyway, you can always count on me to bring you the latest gist. You know say amebo is my profession. Aproko is my hubby.