If your significant other doesn’t like onions, you blend it into the food. Meet yourselves in the middle.
If your S/O doesn’t like sleeping with light on? The middle ground is usually that you should get an eye mask.
If you’re clingy and they aren’t? You cling a little less, they lean in a little more. That’s usually where the middle is found.
If you love PDA and they don’t? Dial it down a little, they dial it up a little. Meet yourselves in the middle.
Life isn’t hard, date considerate people that actually like you.
Imagine marrying someone who has only ever seen you on your good days. Then one day they discover that you get anxious under pressure, withdraw when you’re overwhelmed, make mistakes, have fears, bad habits, and moments of weakness.
You can’t show someone your best without showing them your worst sha.
True intimacy happens when someone has seen both versions.
- The one who gets the promotion and the one who gets rejected.
- The one who is laughing and jovial at all times and the one who cries alone at every given opportunity.
- The one who has money to spend and the one who is calculating every naira until payday.
That’s when love moves from admiration to commitment.
In conclusion: You are good for your good days and also your bad days, if anyone tries to strike the bad days out, then they don’t deserve you.
My daughter knows I love her deeply, but I don't hesitate to discipline her when she crosses the line. Last night, after a serious talk-down, I sent her upstairs to her room.
Tell me why this little girl woke up this morning and one of the first things she asked was, “Dad, why didn't you come upstairs to pray and kiss me last night?”
We spent almost ten minutes talking about what happened the previous night, and the girl calmly told me she was wrong, but that I was wrong for not coming upstairs to pray and kiss her.
Once again, I got reminded that we shouldn't be so angry with the people we love that we stop showing them love and care.
I learned receiver that women compliment other women by asking for their possessions.
“Send me that scarf” means the scarf is nice and not an actual begging for the scarf
If I’m being honest, I don’t know how to show up the same way a second time.If you hurt me in any way friendship or romantic relationship . I will heal from it, and I’ll most likely forgive you.But the version of me you hurt… the one who showed up with no doubts,
......I was shocked the day my colleagues back in Naija told me that:
Guy, amongst all of us, na you only marry beta wife. Na you we dey always complain give! 🤣
I was like, all of una na traditional men naa, make una enjoy!
Me and my wife na freestyle gangstas! We believe that there is no marriage in heaven, so we gats bare it all here.
I dey wash pants join. I dey iron baby pants/socks after washing them. I dey iron everybody clothes for house. She makes the best fucking food and snacks that all of you still rush to share with me at work.
She knows my salary and any other kobo benefits at every stage of my life. But una own no know una salary! You all want your wives to be calling you "My Lord."
How do you want to know Peace? 🤣 They were just looking at me!
Another rape culture indicator is "she gave it up too easy" if you both want it why should there be a struggle? The expectation of resistance to make the sex feel like a conquest is rape culture.
after the early stages, i think many women stop operating from their own defaults and start mirroring you. her behavior becomes less about who she naturally is and more about who you’ve made her to be, through how you treat her consistently over time.