I don’t want my daughter to be like me. I want her to speak up sooner. Walk away faster. Trust herself deeper. Apologize less. Take up more space. Ask bigger questions. Dream louder. And if that means she becomes everything I wasnt… GOOD!
Cardi B said, “I cried for 300 days last year and none of y'all called me up.”
And that hit home. Because this past year, I cried more than I ever have in my entire life. Silent tears, heavy tears, tears that nobody saw. I carried heartbreak, loneliness, and the weight of trying to hold everything together on my own but managed to get through it. Never Again!
He didn’t put you in the “she ain’t good enough” category. He didn’t put you in the “I don’t want her” category. He put you in the "admired but avoided" category. That category is reserved for women who hit a man’s ego, his shadow, and his insecurities all at once. It’s the category men place women in when they know the woman is too powerful for the version of themselves they are currently showing up as.
Dear Young Adults,
You can leave.
If you don’t like your doctor, walk out in the middle of your appointment.
Leave the party. End the date. Don’t wait until the “polite” time to leave or endure because you think you’ll make a scene.
You can go.
What a woman becomes in your presence is the most honest feedback you'll ever receive about the man you really are. Energy doesn’t lie, she mirrors the safety, peace, or chaos you bring.