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நான்ஒரு NRI குரூப்பில் இருக்கிறேன் , அமெரிக்காவில் குடிபெயர்ந்து பல வருடங்களுக்கு மேல் வாழ்பவர் ஒருவரின் மனக்குமுறல்! 👇👇 We come to the USA with monetary and career goals. This process takes a minimum of 4-5 years, including completing a degree, OPT, securing a stable job, etc. Then we fight to protect the life we have built. This involves dealing with the H1B visa process, the green card backlog, and other related challenges. During this time, we often get married and have children. The next decade is about stabilization and achieving a semblance of a normal life: fighting for a green card, buying a home, and building a network of friends. Meanwhile, our parents in India keep getting older. Cousins get married at inconvenient times. "Hey, your marriage is in March? My kids will be in school, I can't make it." Grandparents pass away when we have H1B stamping issues and can't travel. Fathers have heart attacks while our companies are laying off employees at a fervent pace. We miss some or all of these events. India doesn’t care. Life goes on for them. Nephews and nieces grow up not knowing us well. They probably know us as the "uncle and aunt who bring phones" every couple of years. Our children lack the meaningful extended family we had. No grandparents, uncles, aunts, or cousins. We become their entire world. Your spouse often becomes your only friend in a foreign land. She, too, is as confused as you are. When you argue with her for two days, who can she talk to about it? There's no one to share with. The friends network you built will soon be beset with jealousy and complaints. Soon, you realize people are not as innocent as they seem. Class and divisions start to appear based on who got a green card first, who bought a big house, who has a Tesla, who became a manager, who has a furnished basement, and so on. You will be caught in existential questions. Will my son or daughter bring a girl/boyfriend home at age 16? You will turn to culture and home. You will involve yourself in Regional(Telugu/Kannada/Tamil) Community, Indian associations, temples, volunteering, etc. You will change your political beliefs based on your situation. You either become a liberal, thinking all is fine, or you become a conservative, thinking I should resist all this. You go to India and find that you don't belong there. All your relatives have changed. You have changed. Uncles and aunts have died. Nephews and nieces are unrecognizable. The streets and city that you grew up in are unrecognizable. You come back and slip into your known world, keeping on working, never knowing the answer to the question: "Am I better off here or should I have stayed back home?" The answer to this question remains unknown. ~ By An Indian who migrated to USA for a living.

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almost 2 years ago

@StockSavvyShay Not sure of #3..what happened to the PTT podcasts?

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almost 2 years ago

@thekaipullai @airindia IX676 doh-trz departure 5th July, got cancelled due to "operational issues".one time free date change offered graciously. Unfortunately all flight booked so no chance of rebooking.I think @AirIndiaX under @TataCompanies has turned a corner 😞

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