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Narcissists aren’t capable of ‘object constancy,’ which might explain why they say vile shit when angered and then act like nothing happened. 👉What is object constancy? Object constancy is the ability to retain a positive bond w/ someone when you’re angry, upset or hurt. 👉A theory The 1st constant object children learn is their mother. Growing up in a neglectful or abusive home fragments emotional development. The idea of the mother is torn between repressing negative feelings vs positive ones resulting in disassociation from feelings when under stress. 👉The result? An adult who can’t control their anger and acts like an enraged toddler. 👉👉This does not excuse the narcissist’s behavior but it can help explain it. Remember to be indifferent to the narcissist. Practice grey rocking until you can get out.