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“You make my heart hurt because it loves you so much.” 😍 The bond between infants and their mothers is a special one indeed - with nature playing important roles (in both directions) to help promote attachment. After birth, mothers’ brains are flooded with chemicals designed to promote bonding with their child. Sometimes referred to as the “love chemical,” oxytocin plays a particularly influential role in the maternal brain. Its release surges during labor and breastfeeding, helping to promote attachment, caregiving, and feelings of affection. Babies, likewise, arrive programmed to initiate secure relationships with their parents - with their cries/sounds, smiles, eye contact, and other early behaviors all designed to prompt caring adults to respond to their needs. (Just watch how our hero maintains eye contact and responds to mom with vocalizations and facial expressions all throughout this wonderful video.). While many new mothers feel this attachment instantaneously, bonding doesn’t always - and sometimes cannot - happen immediately. And that’s okay. Children born prematurely, for example, often require care in a neonatal intensive care unit - limiting early interaction. For others, postpartum depression and/or recovery from surgical procedures can play a limiting role. While the earliest days of life are ideal for the formation of strong maternal-infant bonds, the good news is that there is ample opportunity for these connections to form and strengthen all across the first year (and beyond). The bottom line: there’s a reason for that love in your heart. Biology is here to help nurture it. This beautiful mother-daughter bonding moment was shared to TT by aivanelli.

https://t.co/dNVsyl5kWE She lived for her kids' - family say mum took own life after 'two-year battle to get children back' And, tragically, the day after they say Tanya Simpson took her own life her family were informed she could be reunited with one of her estranged kids A heartbroken mum whose children were taken from her two years ago has killed herself, say her devastated family. And, tragically, the day after they say Tanya Simpson took her own life her family were informed she could at last be reunited with one of her estranged kids. It was the message Tanya had prayed for - and it came too late. The 29-year-old, whose body was found on March 2 at her Northfield home, had left notes for her nine-year-old daughter and son, aged four, her family said. One said: “I love you, I cannot cope without you.” Incredibly, a simple, shallow scratch on the daughter’s face was the catalyst for the family to be torn apart. Her school contacted police over the injury. Police were called and Tanya candidly admitted she’d accidentally caused the minor injury while cradling the child’s face. READ MORE: How community helped catch thug who mugged wine from OAP on mobility scooter A document, in the family’s possession, reveals Birmingham Children’s Trust, responsible for child care in the city, removed the children it appears because of the injury. The paper also highlights concern over Tanya’s mental health. Her daughter was placed with grandparents Ed and Linda, her son was placed with his father. Tanya had access to them twice a week. Prior to that, there had been no social services involvement over the youngsters’ care, her family insist. Today, they have bravely opened their hearts over the unbearable loss - and demanded to know why Birmingham social workers took so long to resolve the case. Fighting back tears, sister Kimberly said: “I can’t help but hate them. They don’t realise what they’ve done to my family, what they’ve done to the kids. You can see the pain in the little boy’s face. They tore those children apart. How can you split up two kids who have been together for so long? “Mum and dad have lost their baby daughter. To add to their pain, they received a call the day after to be told it had been decided Tanya could have her daughter back. A social worker dealing with the case told my mum a meeting had been set to change the plan so she could move back with her mum. We can’t understand why the children had separate social workers.” She added angrily: “If my sister was not an unemployed single mum, if she had the money to pay for a lawyer, this would not have happened. If we’d had the money to pay for a solicitor, this would not have happened. Kimberly, from Birmingham’s Weoley Castle district, has claimed her sister told police, who decided to take no action over the scratch, and social workers she would kill herself. And Tanya certainly jumped through hoops in attempts to get the children back, paperwork retrieved from her house reveal. She underwent hair-strand tests to show she was drug free. She endured tests to prove she was not addicted to alcohol. She even attended an anger management course. “She was a great mother,” said 31-year-old Kimberley. “She lived for her kids, she would never hurt her kids. My sister never had a drink problem. She had a problem with emotions and would turn to drink, but that was when she was 16 and 17.

You will not bond with an adopted child as if they are “your own.” It’s time for people to stop saying that. It’s delusional, weird and cheapens the mother/infant biological process. You can’t control your hormones or biology & ignoring that while stealing kids is killing us.