nicu

isinya ngomongin lu

[nicu @havenorizz]

bedakan brengsek dan avoidant🤓☝🏻

[nicu @havenorizz]

bedakan avoidant dan lost interest😅

[pamungkäs @gigggit]

AVOIDANT ITU GAPANTES DICINTAI.
dia aja gbs handle dirinya sendiri, apalagi ditambah punya pacar

bangga sih bs lepas, karena ya mo sampe kapan dibuat ovt dll, itu ngedampak banget ke kerjaan, pola tidur, pola makan rusak semua

akhir agustus gaada kabar. 13 sep aku ulang taun, aku putusin.

[nicu @havenorizz]

after all ak hny bs menyalahkan diri sndri bcs who else ak sndri yg ngelakuin consciously

[nicu @havenorizz]

gitu aja terus ampe akhirnya benci sama diri sendiri karna ga leave sooner, gabisa blame them karna udh dititik selalu keep betraying yourself, like me my feeling doesnt matter, hate myself sampe gbs percaya sm diri sendri karna keep fooling myself like i built my own cage ya—

[nicu @havenorizz]

trauma dibalas diselingkuhi, traumapun dibikin sama sapa lho yaa mikis kird

[nicu @havenorizz]

udahlah some of you yg bilang “avoidant ga layak dicintai” emg bener kok. gw jg gamau jd avoidant tp bnran ga deserve kan buat dicintai, buktinya ampe diselingkuhi bolak balik😅 jg emg salah kita kan kalianpun ga butuh trauma kita

[Orbi ツ @orbitually]

Guys.. no.. ☹️

Sebagai org yg pernah sampe bolak balik psikolog & psikiater minum obat gara2 seorang avoidant.. I now feel pity for them..

Mereka tuh sebenernya juga butuh dan mau mencintai.. but it scares them so much (bisa krn banyak faktor) and most of the time they already hates themselves.. it’s actually pretty sad..

Instead of blaming them (the avoidants) aku skrg lebih berusaha memahami kalo mereka cm berusaha melindungi diri mereka sendiri due to their traumas..

The best way to face avoidants is.. just let them be. Gaperlu coba untuk “memperbaiki” mereka dgn cara kasih cinta yg lebih banyak, it only scares them. Instead, set your own boundaries, self respect and expectations. Pahami bahwa bukan salah dan tanggung jawab kita bahwa mereka blm mampu buat meregulasi emosi dan komunikasi mereka scr baik. And find peace with the situation.

I hope both avoidants and their “victims” are healed and can develop secure attachment. May we find love that is gentle and soft. Sending hugs for everyone 🫂

[nicu @havenorizz]

ngubah dri sndri aja susah. said wanna change, baru balikan sekalinya ada masalah ttp give up lg. sekalinya ditinggal nyari yg baru, emg gbs kan sndri🤷🏼‍♀️ just fill dat void over and over again, keep searching for someone instead of build something, dat shit is never ending saga

[nicu @havenorizz]

y dk how much i wan kms

[nicu @havenorizz]

gw benci bgt tbtb attach tbtb avoidant never in between aka secure

[kira @krougee]

selama lo ga secure you have no place to shit on other attachment style krn sama sama insufferable

[nicu @havenorizz]

said wanna disappear and wanna be free but always looking for someone, highkey they set their own cage like

[mars @bajablstdeeznut]

People who just Need to be in a relationship Gross me out 😹😹😹 like why are you so desperate

[nicu @havenorizz]

girl they not s/o-ing you fs😂🤣🤣

[nicu @havenorizz]

gw hanya butuh tmn ngobrol aj tyt ngape ye crash out tp jmbut ak berniat tdr early mala anak2 setan ini call

[nicu @havenorizz]

nevermind🤣🤣🤣 saya aslinya 2

[nicu @havenorizz]

@ascend_i0 ayo kita urunan next

[nicu @havenorizz]

@ascend_i0

[dian 🍏 @ecksveee]

gua ramal ini bakal jadi the new 76 apel

[Lucy @TheLucyShow1]

I thought about washing them separately so the colors wouldn’t mix… but then I remembered they’re cats, not laundry. 😹🐾

[nicu @havenorizz]

aku takut meninggal

[nicu @havenorizz]

or it just me who yearn for it maybe you dont want it and ill be end up alone there too but hey we live in reality

[nicu @havenorizz]

kangen.. hope another universe actually exists where we can live together as the best versions of us forever