It becomes easier to socialize when you actually have things to talk about and you gain things to talk about when you actually have hobbies and experience. You get cooler by trying new things. Your taste develops with isolated pursuit of what YOU desire. Basically, go outside.
Solange was onto something when she said “I can’t be a singular expression of myself. There are too many parts, too many spaces, too many manifestations, too many lines, too many curves, too many colors, too many flavors for me to be one thing.”