Ebehi

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[Ebehi @heampath]

Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.
Philippians 4:5-6 KJV

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[Sugabelly 🌕 @sugabelly]

Then why don’t you 🫵🏾 want to be a submissive wife Abdulazeez?

Don’t you want to be in control?

[Ebehi @heampath]

See this one 🤣

[A.Y.O @YusufAsunmogejo]

Elders say that when a man loses his footing, the ground shakes for everyone around him. Everything I will be saying here is the wisdom I got from my father.

Let me tell you one hard truth. Your husband is not fighting you; he is fighting his own shame. You said he took over a successful family business and brought it to ruin right? While you thrive? That is a huge confidence breaker.

His demand to take over your business is not about the children needing attention. It is a desperate attempt to feel like a leader and a provider again. No let anyone whine you.

And here you are. You do not want to lose your business and you do not want to lose your marriage. But there is a way our mothers handled it. A lot of our grandmothers were very wealthy market women, sometimes richer than their husbands.

But they understood that a man's ego will never allow him to sit at home and watch his wife feed him everyday. If you fight him head on over ownership, he will become toxic and he will find faults in everything you do just to prove he is the head of the house. Don’t go that route.

Instead, our mothers survived this by practicing invisible leadership. They gave the man influence without handing over the treasury.

Firstly, do not fight him face to face. Bring in that one uncle or elder he respects deeply. Let the elder soften the ground and make him see that taking your shop will not rebuild his father's company.

After the elder has spoken, sit him down and make him the chairman of your business. Let him handle the big suppliers, the landlords, or the government people. Give him a title that commands respect when he steps outside. But keep the bank tokens and the daily market operations in your own hands.

You also have to feed his need to lead. Consult him on things you already have the answers to. Ask him if you should buy ten cartons or fifteen, even when you know you are buying fifteen. It makes him feel in charge of the family vision.

Then, if the business is making good profit, free up some capital for him. Tell him you want him to use his experience to start a new branch or a completely different venture. Give him his own project to build.

When a man has his own vision to chase, he will stop fighting you for yours. That is how you keep your home peaceful and protect the sweat of your hands.

Allah knows best.

[Ebehi @heampath]

Loooool!

[A.Y.O @YusufAsunmogejo]

Elders say that when a man loses his footing, the ground shakes for everyone around him. Everything I will be saying here is the wisdom I got from my father.

Let me tell you one hard truth. Your husband is not fighting you; he is fighting his own shame. You said he took over a successful family business and brought it to ruin right? While you thrive? That is a huge confidence breaker.

His demand to take over your business is not about the children needing attention. It is a desperate attempt to feel like a leader and a provider again. No let anyone whine you.

And here you are. You do not want to lose your business and you do not want to lose your marriage. But there is a way our mothers handled it. A lot of our grandmothers were very wealthy market women, sometimes richer than their husbands.

But they understood that a man's ego will never allow him to sit at home and watch his wife feed him everyday. If you fight him head on over ownership, he will become toxic and he will find faults in everything you do just to prove he is the head of the house. Don’t go that route.

Instead, our mothers survived this by practicing invisible leadership. They gave the man influence without handing over the treasury.

Firstly, do not fight him face to face. Bring in that one uncle or elder he respects deeply. Let the elder soften the ground and make him see that taking your shop will not rebuild his father's company.

After the elder has spoken, sit him down and make him the chairman of your business. Let him handle the big suppliers, the landlords, or the government people. Give him a title that commands respect when he steps outside. But keep the bank tokens and the daily market operations in your own hands.

You also have to feed his need to lead. Consult him on things you already have the answers to. Ask him if you should buy ten cartons or fifteen, even when you know you are buying fifteen. It makes him feel in charge of the family vision.

Then, if the business is making good profit, free up some capital for him. Tell him you want him to use his experience to start a new branch or a completely different venture. Give him his own project to build.

When a man has his own vision to chase, he will stop fighting you for yours. That is how you keep your home peaceful and protect the sweat of your hands.

Allah knows best.

[Bella Hadidn’t @SkinwithLolami]

Plus No matter how hard the economy is, nobody owes anyone romantic consideration because they’re richer.

[Ebehi @heampath]

No, she doesn’t.

[Caila 👾 @cailawrites]

A girl becomes a woman when she gets her period

[Jade Osiberu @jadeosiberu]

I know a number of people who didn’t marry their “spec” but are in the healthiest marriages I know. Their spec was typically whatever was culturally deemed to be at the apex of the attractiveness pyramid when they were growing up. For a lot of guys in my generation, it was the music video “vixens” from the late 90s/early 2000s Hip & R&B music videos with ‘coke bottle figures’ and or light skinned eurocentric features. When it’s time to find a partner for the very serious endeavor of sharing a life with, that “spec” is simply inadequate as a measure of compatibility and that’s understandable. The foolishness though is communicating it as though their partner somehow didn’t measure up to their “spec” instead of simply admitting that the idea of their spec was stupid all along and a young boy’s lack of wisdom of what makes a good life partner.

Communicating publicly or even privately to your partner that they weren’t your spec to begin with may seem harmless, after-all you’re just being honest. But subconsciously, it’s an ego trip for you who “settled” and for your the partner, it’s a chip they will always carry on their shoulder that to you, they aren’t quite enough. They’re missing something you had always longed for, so much so that you still consider it to be your “spec”. It’s an unnecessary mind fuck and a cruel thing to say about somebody who is sharing a life with you. No matter how flowery you are with the compliments that come after. You’ve already knocked them down several pegs.

If the point is to say your spec changed then talk about the stupidity of having a spec to begin with. Because I’ve never heard anyone in these situations talk about character attributes being their spec, it’s always superficial stuff. Or speak about how meeting your partner opened your eyes to what true beauty is. Speak in ways that elevate and affirm your partner.

[Ebehi @heampath]

@MsNemah 🥰🥰

[Ebehi @heampath]

@Sir_Fin Agenda

[Ebehi @heampath]

A Nigerian pastor and his unhappy wife would have singled out the bride, urging her to be more submissive because they believe the pathway to a good marriage runs through public humiliation, neatly framed as submission.

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VÍDEO: ‘Está claro que não vai dar certo’: padre aconselha noiva a desistir do casamento após lista de exigências do noivo em MG https://t.co/s4ZU9GltjT

[Ebehi @heampath]

Is this screenshot from a peer-reviewed article?

[Baba Salma @AgainstWeaves]

@evilmiles33 @enyinna_ Look it up...

[Ebehi @heampath]

@Rene_noire Yes of course! I still do

[Ebehi @heampath]

Please, save this girl from that demon! He should be arrested.

[People of Ebonyi @PeopleofEbonyi]

“Please do not arrest him, his mother doesn’t like me, it’ll seem as if I’m the problem,” says the 18-year-old Ebonyi girl, a victim of alleged domestic violence, after activist @HarrisonBbi18 told her he would call the police to arrest her Anambra-born husband for physically

[Ebehi @heampath]

The dog: Ah! Is this how you people behave here? Abeg oo, let me just shift to one side .

[Razas de perros @iRazasdePerros]

La mujer contó que su amiga le pidió que cuidara brevemente a sus hijos y a su hija, y entonces su perro descubrió por primera vez qué son los niños.

[Ebehi @heampath]

@idomagirl I pray that the Holy Spirit visit you where you are and comfort you. I pray that you win every silent battle you are struggling with. May the Grace of God envelop you and guide through this phase. Amen.

[Ebehi @heampath]

@MsNemah ❤️❤️❤️

[Ebehi @heampath]

Abi na Jazz??

[Sweet Simi💕 @iamnifesimi]

Word fail me
Jesus Christ 😭

[Ebehi @heampath]

An absolute fool with Ischemic brain cells. Men and children also get rapped and then what?

[YabaLeftOnline @yabaleftonline]

"If band!ts k!dnap my wife, I’ll will not pay ransom and remarry, because they would have slept with her" - Nigerian man.

[Michelle Obama @MichelleObama]

Barack and I were so honored to have @AkunyiliCrosby create our portrait for the Obama Presidential Center. Her artistic brilliance shines through — and the way she infused such life and joy into the piece is truly extraordinary. We love it, and we think everyone who visits the Center will too!

[Jamal @JajaPhD]

@Hatitude3 @U_Rochas How many gubernatorial elections have you won?

[Dee Macé @frmarcellinus]

After some initial years of "freedom", you realise that there's an emptiness that only God can fill.