Heartsync Adrienne Wood

Speaker, writer, behaviour consultant. Supporting parents in a pickle (takes one to know one) with wisdom from the Neufeld Institute.

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Netflix Adolescence shows us most that what was once seen and moderated by parents now exists in the unseen, unregulated, invisible digital teenage world - a world which is, by and large, a complete mystery to us. @heartsyncnz https://t.co/vvwIIYnGUI

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We are increasingly afraid to let children cry ever – about anything at all. When a child cries these days we jump in to settle them down. But in the rush to distract and calm them we miss the importance of tears. @heartsyncnz https://t.co/Yms272cszO

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As teens spiral deeper into peer culture they become de-sensitised to the insensitivity of their peers thinking it to be “normal” – God help us! - and therefore acceptable in some way. @heartsyncnz https://t.co/i35INlaUWh #parentingteens #gordonneufeld #attachmentparenting

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Bad Parent - Good Parent? Is it better to look good and feel bad as parents or to look bad and feel good?@heartsyncnz https://t.co/YFWKTwat17 .

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Outsourcing your shoulder to a therapist’s in a moment of adolescent angst may mean losing a precious moment for closeness to be built with your teen. @heartsyncnz https://t.co/BeBmx69Lih

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We as parents have not understood how important we are in the equation when it comes to creating emotional resilience for our young people. We are the answer they need. It lies in our hands. @heartsyncnz https://t.co/8kaDdka808

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Sometimes the parts within me need a little mothering too... @heartsyncnz https://t.co/MJElGiMklj

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t's a new year all set with its own challenges ahead. But you'll be fine because you're stronger than you think you are. How do I know? Because as a parent, you care... @heartsyncnz https://t.co/JEg14Zh6P8

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Shame is an emotion that robs us of our energy. If I choose to believe that voice that tells me, "You're just no good as a parent" then I am flooded with a sense of inadequacy that leaves me collapsed on the couch, doom-scrolling my way into a puddle of self-pity and despair.

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Play: your Parenting Superpower, by @heartsyncnz https://t.co/dpSMYTMY9x

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I’m not that easily shocked working, as I do, with parents of turbulent teens. Still, I was kind of shocked when a client told me the story of Penny*, the hockey stick and the phone. @heartsyncnz https://t.co/4QcCotONz5

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"Our tamariki are the greatest gifts we will ever be given. Let’s be grateful for what they bring us: both the delightful and the difficult." See my latest article: Resentment vs Gratitude, by @heartsyncnz https://t.co/EEX1tbexWi

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Raising teens in a digital world can be a daunting task. How do we keep them safe from emotional harm? Researchers agree on one key thing. Read on to find out more.@heartsyncnz https://t.co/Ph1E9TXHCl

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"Go away! You can't tell me what to do! You're not my Mother!" shouted the small girl in front of me. Stung, I pulled back, and wondered what on earth had gone wrong... Read more about how to "Collect before you Direct" in my latest article on Substack.https://t.co/aA4B3SE8PO

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The Good Child shows us their sunshine and not their shadow but is this really good for the "good child"? See my article The Cookie Cutter #gordonneufeld #attachmentparenting @heartsyncnz https://t.co/jJ6XYzgA37

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Parenting may well be the hardest thing we'll ever have to do, but should we try to do it alone? Check out my latest article on Substack. https://t.co/E0jdH4U9gV

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"I'm going to smash you!" We as parents are quick to judge aggression as unacceptable and put in a consequence to teach them a lesson. But what if working on relationship rather than behaviour is a better way through? @heartsyncnz https://t.co/Uc04O143Ov

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Understand the Alpha Dynamic better with your strong-willed child @heartsyncnz https://t.co/UbqxmNSZpQ

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Discover why teens push back in my latest Substack read: You're not the boss of me! @heartsyncnz https://t.co/fMuJAoOqkB

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Enjoy them while they're still young. It's only going to get trickier....https://t.co/Xje7PBvUfM