You ever notice it's not the loud hate that bothers you, it's the fake genuine people. The ones who smile too hard, support you too fast, call you bro or sis but move funny behind the scenes. That's my biggest pet peeve. I can handle disagreement, distance, even someone not liking me. But don't act real and be rehearsed. I respect honesty way more than fake loyalty. I'd rather have three solid people than thirty pretending. At this point I don't confront it, I just adjust access. If you've ever had to "adjust access" to someone, you know exactly what I mean.
Nobody can throw my past in my face. I'll sit at the table and tell you everything from start to finish. I own my wrongs.! own my failures. I made peace with the darkest chapters of my life. What's tea for you is my testimony. You can't shame someone who already healed.