Apologizing when someone you care about tells you what you did hurt them.
—No defense - “but that’s not what I meant”
—No gaslighting - “you’re too sensitive, it’s really not that deep”
—No feeling attacked - “You complain a lot, it’s like I can’t do anything right”
—No “I’m sorry if…”
Just a heartfelt genuine apology, it really doesn’t take anything from you
in a healthy relationship, your partner hears you out if you're upset, and their goal is to avoid upsetting you in the future, not debate whether you should have been upset in the first place, or make you feel as though your emotional experience is very wrong.
it’s a red flag when your partner turns cruel during conflict. disagreements shouldn’t erase kindness. even in chaos, you should still feel care, still feel respect, still feel loved. a partner who stays kind when things are hard isn’t a luxury... it’s essential
This man said “you’re too sensitive.”
I told him “No,you’re too comfortable.”
He said “comfortable with what?”
I said “disrespecting me and expecting me to smile.”
NEVER get mad at your partner for expressing what upsets them... Even if it isn’t deep to you, it may be a serious matter to them. Genuine consideration is key.
In a healthy relationship, your partner hears you out if you’re upset, and their goal is to avoid upsetting you in the future, not debate whether you should have been upset in the first place, or make you feel as though your emotional experience is wrong.
No niego que luego los vayan a cuidar maravillosamente bien hasta el final de sus días, pero por qué?
Porque el sueño de tu vida era tener un caniche? Porque el sueño de tu vida era tener un Sphynx?
Pues te aguantas, no te compras uno como si fuera un bolso
Por qué necesitas a ese Maine Coon o a ese dálmata exactamente? Por qué no a ese gato gris atigrado o a ese chucho que lleva 5 años ignorado en un refugio?
La responsabilidad afectiva no es solo evitar herir, es entender que todo lo que haces, lo que dices, lo que callas, cómo actúas, deja huella en la mente y el corazón del otro.
No se trata de prometer, sino de ser consciente de lo que generas.
Consideration.
If you really love someone, you consider them. You think before you speak, and you move with an awareness of how your actions affect their peace. You care about what makes them feel safe, not just what makes you feel good. If you truly love them, you think about how your actions will affect them.
Creo que es hermoso tener a alguien que comprenda tu sensibilidad y sepa cuidar tus emociones con paciencia y delicadeza. Hay algo profundamente reconfortante en mostrar tu vulnerabilidad y que la otra persona responda con comprensión, atención y verdadera ternura.