Dedoyin

Integrative Psychotherapist (MBACP) | Making sense of being human. Tweets aren’t therapy.

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If you have ADHD, learn about limerence.

It is an intense, involuntary fixation on someone that can feel exactly like extraordinary love. You think about them constantly, crave their reciprocation, and gradually begin organising your emotional world around their presence.

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Learn to separate your identity from your output. Regulate the initial sting, become curious about what you may be unable to see from your own vantage point, and sift the feedback before deciding what to accept or reject.

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When someone gives you important feedback about the quality of your work, you’ll be tempted to lash out and defend yourself. Don’t fall for it. Fight that impulse and hear them out.

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Psychologically, criticism can feel like a threat to the self, particularly when we have invested our identity in what we create. We can mistake “this could be better” for “you are not good enough,” and suddenly we are defending our worth rather than examining the work.

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Keep showing up for that thing you believe in. You showed up yesterday; show up again today. Every time you do, you increase your surface area for luck.

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@IAMOdon What a beautiful way to explain it.

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Please note that people without ADHD can experience limerence too. It’s just more intense and common with ADHDers. If you recognise the pattern in yourself, the label is secondary to understanding what is actually happening.

[Dedoyin @hellodedoyin]

If you have ADHD, learn about limerence.

It is an intense, involuntary fixation on someone that can feel exactly like extraordinary love. You think about them constantly, crave their reciprocation, and gradually begin organising your emotional world around their presence.

[Dedoyin @hellodedoyin]

@fovwee With his two horns and long fork.😅

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I’m also currently welcoming new therapy clients. To enquire, email [email protected].

[Dedoyin @hellodedoyin]

If you have ADHD, learn about limerence.

It is an intense, involuntary fixation on someone that can feel exactly like extraordinary love. You think about them constantly, crave their reciprocation, and gradually begin organising your emotional world around their presence.

[Dedoyin @hellodedoyin]

If you’re new here, welcome. I’m Dedoyin, an integrative psychotherapist. I lost my previous account at 54,000 followers, so I’m rebuilding this little corner of the internet from scratch.

If thoughtful and practical mental health conversations are your thing, stay around.

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@EreluChocolate Fair point. Limerence isn’t exclusive to ADHD, but ADHD is associated with certain experiences that tend to intensify limerent patterns, which is why the tweet was directed towards them.

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A healthy relationship should have enough emotional safety for both people to be honest, disagree, express disappointment and say, “I’m not okay with this” without fearing that the relationship itself will collapse.

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One of the more dangerous misconceptions about a healthy relationship is the belief that everything is fine simply because neither person is saying what they are genuinely thinking or feeling. It’s a ticking time bomb.

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I saw this post by @busayo__joan and decided to expatiate on the subject. You’ll find it valuable.
https://t.co/2saDuqK1nh