This has always been true.
Times are changing. Change is hard but it has to happen.
Men need to lower their ego to accept help and assist more in their own families.
And must importantly, marry right!
Nigerian men need reorientation. Most of the older ones are lost. They are not questioning the practice, they are validating it. It is important the younger ones know and do better. That is why we write what we write
The argument you presented is true but shouldn't be so. If your female friends expect you to always foot the bills, you have a choice to clear her and demand reciprocity, and cut her off if she doesn't do better. If your girlfriend only demands and expects, you have a choice to fling away. We can only demand the love we give. If she is demanding what she doesn't give, fling her away. You don't put yourself under pressure to meet her demands in an unrequited relationship and cry that it is women's nature. The problem men have is actually doing these things and thinking it makes them men.
There is no reason under heaven that two students in school surviving on pocket money are dating and only one is expected to foot all the bills and carry the other person's responsibility. Men are supposed to know it is wrong and stop living under undue pressure. My first relationship, I was 20 and she was 18. She had access to my money and I had access to hers'. She had access to my card and I had access to her card. We each sponsored different outings and gifted each other often. She never did these stupid billing I hear on the internet. I do not have any experience of this madness people go through in their relationship.
We can't keep blaming society. We are society. We have brain and an education. We can question every practice, every doctrine, every culture, that doesn't make sense and devalues the humanity in a person to the sum of their pocket. So no, it is not okay and everyone has to know it is not okay.
To love is to GIVE love and to RECEIVE love. If only one person is giving and doing, it is not a love relationship. I do not care how many women lack family values, you as a man should be intentional with picking the ONE that has it even if you have to go through 40 people to find ONE. Where your money is, that is where your heart will be. Any woman who isn't happy to invest her income in the relationship and isn't actively investing her income into the relationship/marriage, is your enemy. She hates you. It is that simple. Men need to stop tying their masculinity to how much of a woman's burden they can carry. You'll just die like a cow and there is no glory in who carries burden the most.
The whole point of having a partner is partnership. You work together, plan together and grow together. It is that simple. It makes the burden light for both parties so you can both breathe well as you grow in love. This is 2026 not 1776. One income is no longer enough to run a home. You and your woman both went to school and are both working. Both income make up the family income and should be used to run the affairs of the home. There is nothing supernatural in marriage, it all begins in the relationship. If you dont get it right in the relationship, you'll face calamity in the marriage.
There is a Christian genocide in Nigeria.
There is a Christian genocide in Nigeria.
There is a Christian genocide in Nigeria.
There is a Christian genocide in Nigeria.
There is a Christian genocide in Nigeria.
There is a Christian genocide in Nigeria.
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