One idea that has revolutionized my thinking is this: you are allowed to not want things.
You can look at everything society tells you that you need to have and just be like, “Nope. I will not be participating.”
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The doctor say na thank God it stopped bc if my heart rate was still up, they don’t have the thing they would’ve used to shock it back to normal.
Nigeria is trying to take my life guys 🥴
i have decentered ego and shame when it comes to liking people romantically. na me like you, so do as you like. it’s your time, jaye lo. opon apala ma sun finally.
Finished the Off Campus show and was excited to read the books, but the excerpts and dialogues I’m seeing on the tl are not encouraging at all. I just know I’d be rolling my eyes and cringing.😭😭
I judge people that use AI a lot because I’ve never and I mean never, personally used AI for work and I write for work. I’ve never thought hm let me open Claude and what’s the other one called. Never have, never will.
my biggest concern with having kids is i like to just get up and go do shit for months without telling anyone what or where i’m going
so i’ll need to partner with someone who can take up the responsibilities of being the primary caregiver for the kids while i gallivant around
So simplistic and rigid in their thinking. No room in their brains to unlearn and relearn or even for a different POV from what they’re used to or know.
I am reminded by this podcast that The Slumflower appeared on recently, that Nigerian men are dangerously and violently regressive, collectively. They're also so aggressively simplistic in their thought processes. Proper not keeping up and everyone can see it 😔
If you hang out around certain men for a long time, you'd want to earn their social respect by upping your misogyny.
It's not the right way to be a man.
In my parents’ house, nobody was waking up by 5am to start frying egg and boiling yam for anybody.
Breakfast was, tea and bread, cereal or if you want stress, tell the cook to make it for you. So I carried this peaceful upbringing proudly into marriage. Big mistake 🙆🏾♀️.
One morning after I got married, my husband casually woke me up by 6am to ask what he would have for breakfast before work.
It even sounded strange to me because what do you mean I should come and make breakfast? 😭 I said, tea is there. Apparently that was not the correct answer.
Omo that was our first marital disagreement “breakfast”. When I called my mother to complain, thinking she would support me, this woman switched sides immediately.
Very early the next morning, she woke my sisters up and announced, “Wake up and learn how to prepare breakfast for your husbands before your husbands return you people to sender.”
According to gist later, my sisters said the way she was talking, you would think she personally used to prepare full buffet breakfast for us growing up.
This same woman that raised us on “make your own breakfast” suddenly became Chef Hilda Baci because somebody got married.
Nigerian women are so funny. The fact that you tolerate and forgive cheating, does not mean men should.
I can not force you to want better for yourself.
What love looks like to some nigerian men is finding a highly educated, independent woman who will give up get agency, life dreams, name, career to be a stay at home mom making jollof at 4.30am, while they constantly cheat and she forgives