People confuse love with mere obsession or attachment. Although these two are a part of the spectrum of that feeling but love is never forced or the person who actually loves you will never impose his wishes on you if that's not what you want as well.
Love is considerate.
No matter what you say about yourself, while joking or being serious, whatever is repeatedly said or thought about; your subconscious picks it. And it manifests in your actions, personality and hence life.
So be mindful of what you repeatedly say and think. It'll shape you.