A lot of people are feeling this way, and it really is because their identity is tried to tools and process, and not to the outcomes.
I was never a good programmer. I failed my CS courses multiple times & ultimately got the bare minimum passing grade. I don't do software design book clubs, I don't contribute to OSS, I don't participate in advent of code, I don't do hacktoberfest. That's not to say I don't write good code, but my identity is not tied to artisanally handcrafting software.
What I'm very good at is looking at a pile of problems and just solving them any which way needed, better than most people I know, and lucky for me that just so happens to line up with what makes someone a good principal engineer.
Outcomes, not tools.