High empathy sucks cause when you understand why people are the way they are you realize most people aren't truly evil they're just dumb and incapable of viewing the world outside of their own experiences which makes it hard to truly hate them even if they are ugly inside.
You should never be expected to be the bigger person when you didn't create the discomfort in the first place. Too many people cause the chaos, cross the line, then want you to swallow your feelings just to keep the peace.
Accountability matters. Being mature doesn't mean accepting disrespect or cleaning up messes you didn't make. Sometimes protecting your peace means standing firm and letting folks sit in the consequences of what they caused.
I read it somewhere "We romanticized the wrong organ the stomach is more emotional than the heart" and it feels so true. We feel butterflies in our stomach and when we're sad we lose our appetite our stomach gets affected by emotions way more than we realize.
I will never again pretend to be the easygoing, low maintenance girl. I love receiving flowers without having to ask. I appreciate unexpected “thinking of you” texts and thoughtful check ins. I enjoy forehead kisses and good morning messages. I like being taken on meaningful dates that I didn’t have to plan.
I want to be shown off, not hidden, like someone you’re proud to have. I love affection, intentional time together, and little surprises. I like to be loved out loud. I’m done making myself smaller to be easier to love. I love hard and I won’t apologize for it anymore.
People get so caught up in the shame of being called out on something, that they make the situation ten times bigger than what it had to be. Life could be so simple if accountability was normalized. You did a thing I didn't like. I named it. You acknowledge/apologize. We move on
there’s a version of withdrawal that comes from feeling like no one actually wants to know you deeply, even the people who think they do
& I think seeing too much while feeling unseen changes you