I only date men capable of being obsessed with me bc whenever I complain about anything I want them to just be like but you’re an Angel who would ever spite you and I get to just agree
At times male anger at ‘women getting special treatment’ reminds me of a gorilla experiment. One gorilla gets a banana every hour. The females next to him get one every four hours. Then someone decides to be fairer and gives the females a banana every two hours instead. The original gorilla? He flips out. He's still getting his banana every hour, but it feels like a loss because his advantage shrank. That's how a lot of men react to basic fairness for women: not as justice, but as theft.
I just heard a woman in midlife say:
"I'm not being rude. I'm just no longer responsible for managing your comfort."
And honestly, that makes perfect sense.
"but you survived."
i dissociate, like, a lot. my heart drops when someone raises their voice. i shut down very easily. i'm far too observant. i isolate often.
but yeah, sure. i guess i survived.
its really important that your favourite author be dead for several reasons, mostly because if they turn out to be a absolute piece of work twenty years down the line you can say things like "well theyre DEAD now" which is a satisfying way to end that conversation for everyone
Not decorating your place is a trauma response. A quiet way of saying, “I won’t get attached to something I might lose." And healing begins the moment you realize you’re no longer just passing through life, you are allowed to settle, and make your environment feel like home.
Say no to low-quality relationships. If it's one-sided, no. If they don't reciprocate, no. If they're inconsistent, no. If they're unsure about you, no. If they lie or cheat, no. If their words don't match their actions, no. If they don't apologize and change their behavior, no.
I remember seeing a post like "carnivores don't tend to have horns, they're usually a defensive weapon for things lower down the food chain" and now I can't help but see those pictures of dragons with huge horns the same as 6ft 5" bottoms going 👉👈 hunt me
this is true and part of why ADHD is so tiring. if you dont take advantage of your 'flow' to the utmost you wont get anything done after. so you have to overexert yourself because you dont know when the brief clarity will end. im tired.
do you ever just wanna hold someone so so tight and make them feel okay and heal all the pain and hurt in their heart, fill them up with so much love and make sure they never feel sad or broken again
yeah breakups hurt, but have you ever been a super talkative, enthusiastic person but slowly over the years and after trauma you watch yourself become more quieter and quieter to the point where that enthusiastic bubbly person just isn't who you are anymore?
the moment you realize you are consistently an afterthought to someone you consistently prioritize, that’s your answer. no conversation needed. no explanation required. just the decision to stop making space for someone who never made space for you.
I get jealous really easily but not like an angry vengeful jealous, more like a really sad lonely jealous because everybody likes everybody more than they like me and I really really don't blame them