Maria G. Sosa - Therapist

Divorced couples therapist & writer ️
Helping women work through the doubts, the heartbreak and life after everything falls apart.
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[Maria G. Sosa - Therapist @holisticalldjog]

I used to believe that love was enough.

That if you just worked hard enough, communicated better, showed up “the right way”… you could make it work.

But then my own marriage came to an end.
And no amount of training or tools could save it.

Since t...

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Repeat after me: “I am not needy, I have unmet needs”

“I’m sorry I’m so needy and annoying…” Anyone else started a conversation with something like this? 🙋‍♀️

The funny thing is, for the most part, these conversations are seeking to fulfill some ve...

[Maria G. Sosa - Therapist @holisticalldjog]

Words are my love language. Communication is my love language.

Which of these is hitting the spot?

[Maria G. Sosa - Therapist @holisticalldjog]

Trying harder may actually be what’s keeping you stuck.

I see this all the time in my sessions with couples. They keep trying to fix the same problems the same way, expecting different results.

They don’t realize their efforts have become part of t...

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Divorce art isn’t new. But it’s having a real moment.

Beyond the very juicy text messages from Madeline and the gasp of “Is there really a song called P**y Palace*?” (there is) — Lily Allen’s new post-divorce album is beautiful. And exactly what we ...

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I have to be honest: sometimes “date night” doesn’t really feel like quality time; it feels like forced play. I love the point that trying to schedule connection into your calendar (saying “it’s date night so now we connect”) may be putting extra pre...

[Maria G. Sosa - Therapist @holisticalldjog]

So often, our over-functioning keeps reinforcing their under. And we’re part of the problem: by continuing to keep the cycle in motion, by continuing to take on more than our load, by continuing to carry what was meant to be shared.

And yes, this is...

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I’m being honest, it wasn’t until my marriage broke apart that I realized how much of my life had revolved around romantic love and relationships.

In one way or another, I had always been longing to be in a relationship, inside one, or healing from ...

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In case you needed this reminder again:

Choice doesn’t keep grief away from you. You can be the one to leave and still come undone.

You can know it was right to end your relationship and still feel like your world has been split open.

Especially i...

[Maria G. Sosa - Therapist @holisticalldjog]

Overheard therapy room:

“Sure, you’re anxious because they’re not exactly reliable, right?

You don’t know whether they’re coming or going, leaving or staying. You don’t know if certain topics are safe to bring up. You don’t know whether you feel sa...

[Maria G. Sosa - Therapist @holisticalldjog]

When forgiving is not forgetting.

[Maria G. Sosa - Therapist @holisticalldjog]

But what if I end up alone?

It’s one of the biggest fears that comes up when we’re considering ending a relationship. When we’re in that limbo, in the: “should I stay or should I go?”

And yes, leaving the known for the unknown is one of the most te...

[Maria G. Sosa - Therapist @holisticalldjog]

To: 29-year-old me
From: 39-year-old me

P.s. I love you. And yes, you work it out ❤️

[Maria G. Sosa - Therapist @holisticalldjog]

If you find yourself downplaying it. If you find yourself rationalizing it. If you find yourself making excuses for it—it’s probably your brain easing the discomfort between what you know is true and what’s happening right in front of you.

So you bu...

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I’m a divorced couples therapist. And if there’s one thing the therapy room has taught me—it’s that the red flag isn’t always what someone says.

It’s what stops getting said.

I’ve watched it happen again and again: A woman stops bringing things up....

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When you’re in the middle of heartbreak—whether it’s a breakup, a divorce, or the slow unraveling of something that once held your whole world—it’s easy to feel as if you’ve lost everything.

And yes, there’s grief. Real, deep grief.

But there’s als...

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We’ve been taught to stay.

To endure.

To believe that being miserable is just part of making it “work.”

Now look, I’m not saying relationships should be all rainbows and butterflies.

But suffering is not a love language. Love shouldn’t require yo...

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Our Coral Gables Book tour stop was sold out! Thank you to and for being visiting professors of The Happiness Lab!🔬

Maria Sosa, a Miami based family and marriage therapist and upcoming author explained the 5 Vs in English and Spanish and ways we ...

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If you’ve made a spreadsheet or a pros and cons list about your relationship, you’re not alone.

It’s one of the most common things people do when they’re stuck in relationship ambivalence. But here’s what the research shows:

That method? It doesn’t...

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Some endings come quietly…after dinner and dishes. After another night of going through the motions. After one too many I’m fine’s—that weren’t.

We’ve been told that unless it’s toxic, we should stay. That unless they’re hurting us, we have no right...