@gratefulheart30@animolenikun My brother, the actions of many young Babalawos on social media today have done greater damage to the reputation of Isese than any external detractors. They must engage in self-reflection and regulation first.
Tiping your office security N1k for buying your lunch, is not you doing him a favour. He earned it. If e easy, stand up from your seat and go get the food yourself. Calculate the financial cost of the stress of going the distance to get the food and back.
If you want to do him a favour, give him money for no reason. Someone would do you a favour, but you would see yourslf as the one doing them a favour because you earn higher than them and don't respect them.
If you send money to your colleague that does the same work with you and asked them to please get you lunch on their way back from wherever they were going, you see it as them doing you a favour because you respect them. You don't see it as a favour done to you when it is done by the office security or cleaner because you don't respect them. If you treat these people well and respect them, they will be happy to do things for you. You've become entitled to their help that you now expect them to use their money to fund your lunch.
My security does errands for me, and every errand comes with a tip. That is thank you for doing this because it is not his job. Favour is when I give him money for no reason which happens often or when he has special needs and makes a request and I give him money. You need to start respecting people as human beings, not by how much they earn. This thing is a common problem in our society.
Some people will not put you on because they have put hands in untoward scheme. They paid the price to get to where they are, and they can't have you benefitting from it if you won't or can't pay the price.
Sometimes, this refusal to put you on, is a way of protecting you. All that glitters is not gold.
@Boy147Jackie@Cr7Godbrand Bro, Most of the time, they believe they’ll change, but in the long run, you have to decide if you want to live long or die hoping for change.