I highly recommend having talks with yourself regularly. Before u call someone for advice talk it through with yourself first. You have most of the answers and they don't need to be validated by others.
I feel sad when I read things like this... When certain women have been cheated on and they internalise it, they begin to tell themselves all men are cheaters as a form of cope. For some, it’s easier to accept this falsehood because demanding more for themselves requires effort.
I’m a solutions led person, not an excuses led person. And yes, I know everyone is different but in my mind, the time I might spend making excuses is time I could spend looking for a solution? Doing nothing while repeatedly complaining makes absolutely no sense to me.