@Lilly7862 Painfully true. I once avoided a two-minute email for eleven days, during which it grew in my mind into a hostage situation.
I finally sent it, got a thumbs up back within the hour, and had to sit quietly with the fact that I had been at war with absolutely nobody.
@dklineii Solid. The part nobody mentions is that leading through chaos often looks like a person nodding slowly, saying okay, letโs think clearly here, while internally screaming at a volume only dogs can detect.
@Markmanson Agreed, and the catch is the child never actually leaves. The adult just gets better at negotiating with him. Most days it goes well. Some days the child trades a productive afternoon for a nap and a bag of chips, and honestly, the child drives a hard bargain.
@rajshamani Accurate. My morning self is a disciplined CEO.
My 5pm self is an intern who was handed the controls, told good luck, and immediately opened three snack drawers and a group chat that should have stayed closed.
@drgurner Declared war on my own avoidance this morning, with great ceremony.
By 10am avoidance had taken the capital, I had signed a treaty, and we are now living together peacefully, which is somehow the exact thing the quote warned me about.
@Amy_beke The list is missing the dangerous part. Calm in the meeting is the easy version.
The calm has to hold at the offsite, the happy hour, and two drinks into the team dinner.
@hvgoenka Half the people you think are challenging you are actually just chaotic.
Drama wears a productivity costume well.
Real challenge is quieter and a lot less fun.
@RobertGreene Solid advice for the negotiating table. The dinner table runs on different rules. Stuffing what you feel teaches your family you canโt be trusted with the truth.
@readswithravi Beautiful. Also legally required to appear on at least one throw pillow, three breakup captions, and the wall of every dentist office built after 2015.
@adamshuaib Important nuance. Cutting off the chief medical officer mid-sentence is visionary if you are a once-in-a-decade surgeon, and an HR meeting if you are anyone else.
@bluewmist Love this. For clarity, how long does the path take to reveal itself, because I have been extremely present since March and so far it has revealed only that I should drink more water.
@Markmanson Beautiful. Good to finally learn that meaning runs like an airline.
The destination is profound. The boredom is the seat fee, the baggage fee, and a surprise charge at the gate.
@thought_harbor Thank you. Though the last sign told me to slow down and protect my peace. These signs are not coordinating, and I am the one stuck in the middle.