This is another clear example why people rather do it in silence. Sound Sultan never said a thing till he gave up the ghost. We can say itโs a choice but then itโs harder to stay alive and see people mock you with your pain than staying in silence; hoping you beat it. This way they are not indebted to you. You will ruin a life with using their pain against them. If they survive it, you will remind them of how you contributed to their being alive. Itโs a deep blue sea
I don't think I'm healing. I think I'm just learning how to carry pain without spilling it. People call it strength, but really, it's just silence , I laugh, I smile, I show up Everyday but inside, half of me is already gone.
Having your own money changes the dynamic you have with the people in your life. From parents, friends to romantic partners. It gives you a chance to love and interact with them from a place of choice and not survival. Your money gives you options of who stays in your life.