for me, it was a realisation.
i had already survived every man i was convinced i wouldn’t survive. every relationship that felt like my entire world, i got through it. i was fine.
then i built my world around someone new, and that ended too, and i was fine again.
and eventually something clicked like, there will always be another man willing to become my whole world if i let him. which means the scarcity i kept feeling was never real. i manufactured it every time by treating each one like he was the last.
so i realised, you don’t decenter men by deciding they’re not worth it. you decenter them the moment you realise you were always going to be okay without them. and that’s the point i reached.
Someone is fighting 10 people doesn’t mean the person is the problem please.
Call it whatever you like but if 10 people are moving mad towards me, I will cut them off too. Call me problematic,I don’t care.
Saw a post that said “Diddy’s documentary taught me that the most dangerous person you will ever meet is an insecure man.” And it very simply encapsulated what I was thinking the entire time I watched it.
I tell people all the time that men who hate themselves will ruin your life. They will punish you for all the things they dislike about themselves, they will hate you for liking yourself, and being a woman caught in their crosshairs will blow your life up.
Insecure men who are insecure while holding onto the belief that they are entitled to power & control but have none in reality will attempt to hold women under their thumb & deplete their self esteem to build up a false sense of power over someone they deem lesser. A man who hates himself will hate you. Not always in obvious ways, but in calculated, manipulative ways.
Not all insecure people are insidious. We all have insecurities. But there is something to be said for insecure men with control issues. Insecure men who dangle love, attention & compliments in front of you like a carrot to be earned so they can feel important holding something they know is of value over a woman’s head to maintain a facade. They do not feel special, and it kills them, but you desiring their approval makes them feel that which they aren’t accustomed to. Women are the easiest and most primary targets for men like this. Especially women they secretly have deemed as out of their league. They will attempt to ruin your self worth to keep you submissive.
Sprint in the other direction. They will bleed you dry.
I challenged myself to do 10 HTML projects in 10 days and I actually did them.
I just never got around to posting here.
So I’m dropping them all at once today.
Been working on a few other things lately too, I’ll be sharing updates soon.
I’ve already learned the basics of HTML (headings, paragraphs, links, lists, tables, forms etc).
Now I’m challenging myself to do 10 mini HTML projects in 10 days
I’ll share 1 project per day here.
As much as I want to do a lot of things, I don’t like being in the “spotlight” of anything… big or small
I’m just tryna be that “underground” guy people barely know, but is loaded with unexpected & unforeseen doings
Who is he with?
Where is he at?
What can he do?
I want Nigerians to understand that being career-driven isn’t the only form of ambition. Choosing to prioritize your peace, live within your means, and enjoy your days with intention? That’s ambition too. Wanting just enough money to sustain yourself, to travel, sip margaritas on a beach, & watch sunsets without worrying about the next certification? absolutely ambition.
The difference is, some people chase expansion, while others chase contentment. Both are valid!
I dislike people that avoids taking accountability.
You hurt someone, they communicated their feelings to you needing a reasonable explanation and all you are saying is just “sorry”
Saying “sorry” just to shut someone up is freaking manipulative.