Don’t bogard & or bombard. Or Assert, if you will. Make sure YOU are taking care of YOU. And not looking for SOMEONE to do it just because you’ll do it for them.
It’s not SELFISH... it’s SELFCARE.
Do What Makes YOU Happy. It’s so considerate & thoughtful to try and think of others before you do so. But sometimes people show you your position in their lives. And it’s for you to make sure you respond accordingly.