As a woman, it’s scary to admit, but the legal system really is set up to break men.
A man can work himself into the ground for decades to provide, yet if the marriage fails, he loses the house, the kids, and his assets. We call them 'insecure' for hesitating, but sometimes they are afraid of being liquidated by the person they trusted the most.
Honestly relationship isn't supposed to be a prison, people are meant to have a life outside it so yes go on friendship dates and take pictures but don't come back to me.