It was my birthday the other day. I didnโt care to celebrate, not because I donโt love myself enough, but at this stage of my life, being equipped with the knowledge and finances to change something about the world would be a cause to celebrate for me and Iโm not there yet.
@DoaMN_ Yes. ๐ฏ block. Not out of malice, but to preserve your emotional health. Itโs hoovering. Donโt let them suck you back into toxicity. It never ends. Grey rock and build yourself a small community friends that treat you like family.
@Calibos420@aibabbler Indeed. Iโm also learning from his experience. Iโm not sure heโs capable of change, but at least his experience is teaching me to never plot evil for others because it returns to sender.
Reminded my eldest sister of an ex-boyfriend of hers. She retorted, โAny guy I dated 20+ years ago isn't an ex. He's nonexistent.โ I totally agree, but why does the mind replay old stories as if they're happening in the here and now?
#MindsetShift
@Calibos420@aibabbler Initially, but I also feel sorry for him because no one deserves the disgrace heโs going through. But at the same time, he planned the same for me years ago when Iโd only been kind to him, so I think the universe has served him the right meal.
@Calibos420@aibabbler It is lol. Now Iโm scared of my thoughts because the fellow I mentioned is now embroiled in a disgraceful media storm where the things he smeared me with are happening to him. I didnโt even realize I said this last year. Thoughts really have power. ๐ณ
Happy 2026 ๐
I started the year at peace, then an unhealed family member tried to guilt me for holding my boundary โ praising someone she knows hurt me. It reminded me there are still parts of me healing, and Iโm tending to them now. #Healing#SelfLove#Boundaries
@Calibos420 It honestly does. It stops me falling back to the familiar. Also validates my worth. You should try it, but in your own way. Maybe when you bake you can engrave words into your loaves? So it feels like youโre eating progress. Who knows?
I recently started keeping a jar labeled โsmall wins.โ Inside I put little post-its with things like: answered one email, drank two glasses of water, told the mirror โnice to see you.โ On hard days, I open it and watch my worth pile up.
Skipping the hard conversation feels safe, but itโs just old wiring whispering โkeep the peace.โ One honest sentence can rewire it. Youโre allowed to speak up and stay soft.
#CutTheCord
Every time you swallow โthat wasnโt okay,โ you feed the wound and starve the relationship. Gentle boundaries arenโt rejection; theyโre invitations to real connection.
#CutTheCord