Fellas, your thoughts, ideas, and values, are not entirely your own. A large degree of those have been informed by the men in your life who initiated you into patriachal masculinity. Because of this, you have a lot of unrecognised and untreated trauma. Please seek help.
So, the solution is obviously not all that simple. The people whom we want to breakout out of patriachal conditioning are the ones that cling to it the most.