when I was like 10 I had to write a letter to a judge and I used the word “therefore” and a lawyer asked me what it meant and I couldn’t put it into words but I knew I used it correctly and they decided I didn’t write the letter myself
Mothers who are mothering without being mothered by their own mother are living a completely different reality than mothers who are being mothered while they mother.
Mothers who are mothering without being mothered by their own mother are living a completely different reality than mothers who are being mothered while they mother.
As a mama of four kids, I will be the mother-in-law one day (I pray) and I will let my future daughter(s)-in-law know that when it comes to their childbirth, I am there to serve them and help create an environment where she and baby can thrive.
I will be as involved or give them as much privacy as needed. If she is comfortable with it, I'd love to help - do laundry, clean up, cook and bring meals while she bonds with baby, hold baby while showers or rests.
I'm here to serve the mother postpartum.
Or if she wants privacy, I'll doordash healthy meals, hire a cleaning service to clean if she wants, check on her emotionally via text, counsel my son on how to be a supportive husband during this time - and be very grateful for photos or videos until she's ready for me to visit baby.
What I'm not going to do is throw a hissy fit and make another woman's birth about me and demand to see the baby or be jealous of the sacred bond she has with her own mother and the time she may want to spend with her after birthing her own baby.
Women trying to make birthing mothers feel guilty for not inviting in-laws (or anyone) into their space postpartum are fucking crazy to me.