My conspiracy theory (which is no conspiracy theory at all) is that Nigerians are being burdened with low quality problems by design. That’s the structure. This is how things are to be.
How do you tell someone operating on survival mode to look beyond their current reality?
To surpass your father, you cannot only inherit what he knew… you must encounter what he never encountered.
You must encounter new people, new places, new knowledge, new battles, new spirits.
There is a reason many sons eventually become no different from their fathers, even when they swore they would be different.
They inherited the same environment, the same fears, the same limitations and, as funny as this may sound, sometimes the same enemies.
Every generation is supposed to discover something the previous generation couldn’t reach.
Some fathers fought battles their children will never understand just to move the family one step forward.
Now it is your turn.
And one of your duties is to question the limitations your father was forced to accept as reality.
Do not spend your entire life fighting battles your father already won.
Every generation must go further into the unknown and that is how families evolve.
That is how bloodlines change.
Your father conquered the world he knew.
Your responsibility is to discover the worlds he never knew existed.
It is a relay race... We are all going to be ancestors someday and those coming behind us will pick it up from wherever we stop.
That is how generations advance.
You see how Alex Otti is the standard today?
That's exactly how Peter Obi was the standard in his day.
Alex Otti will try to become president one day and the campaigners of calumny will come and say he did nothing.
Awon eranko.
There’s something incredibly attractive about a man who notices you’re overwhelmed and steps in without being asked.
He cooks, cleans, does the laundry, washes the dishes. Not because he has to, but because he cares.
That’s a turn-on.
"Women have always had equal rights." Meanwhile — when anesthesia was first invented, doctors weren't allowed to give it to women in labor because the church declared that the pain of childbirth was God's punishment for sleeping with men. Let that sit for a second.
From the top of my head;
1. Internalized Misogyny - na woman dey book me likened to why woman go be my madam?. I get your type…
2. Societal thinking that every hot babe is a runs-girl or funded by a man.
3. Bolt drivers are mostly mad… they think they’re doing you a favour.
The hallmark of successful relationships isn’t that you do not fail, you do not disagree, never hurt each other despite your best intentions, never disappoint or never go through rocky terrains.
The beauty of successful relationships is that even when these happen, you never stop trying to communicate, repair, make amends, do better, love harder, unlearn, relearn, fight for each other, stand by one another, and prioritize kindness, care, thoughtfulness and protection above all. Without manipulation, coercion, deceit or violence.
And you want them to "eradicate" thugs from Lagos state? 😅
The most productive industry?
If you've worked within or close to the machineries of this industry, you'll know that these numbers are not fabricated.
Why do you think all their union leaders have chains of hotels?
Women really need to stop feeling guilty for having standards. If I tell you I like flowers, dates, reassurance, affection, and consistency, that's not me asking you to change who you are. It's me telling you what kind of love I want. If that feels like too much work to you, that's okay. You don't have to be the man for me. I'd rather you walk away than stay around making me feel like basic effort is asking for the world.