Dear Frank Edoho, this is a financial and life advisory from someone who has been watching.
First, the school fees, the properties, the years of provision, the emotional labour, all of that is gone and it is not coming back, mourn it for exactly 30 days, after that it becomes a tuition fee for the most expensive masterclass in human character assessment you will ever attend, file it under education and move forward.
Second, you are 57 years old, still handsome, still distinguished, still employed, still relevant, still the man who made “is that your final answer” a cultural moment in Nigerian television history. The woman who left that did not leave because you were not enough, she left because some people confuse a blessing for an entitlement, that is her problem now, not yours.
Third, your next investment will not be in a woman who needs building, you have already built two complete human beings from scratch with your resources, your time, and your emotional capacity. Going forward you are only investing in something that already has equity, no fixer upper projects or rehabilitation contracts, you are not NNPC and you cannot afford another turnaround maintenance scam.
Fourth, separate your finances permanently and structurally, whatever you own going forward carries your name only until a relationship has proven itself over years not months, love is beautiful but a joint account requires the same due diligence as a business partnership….which it literally is.
Fifth, the woman making noise publicly right now naming people and building a victim narrative is doing you a favour you have not recognised yet. She is showing everyone watching exactly who she is without you having to say a single word, your silence is not weakness Frank, your silence is evidence, let it speak.
Sixth, stop falling in love with potential, you are a television professional, you understand production, you know the difference between a pilot episode and a complete series, stop funding pilots that never make it to season two.
Now the most important advice of all.
Come back to television, but not with a quiz show this time, Nigeria has moved past multiple choice questions, we are living in an era of N800 billion missing from FAAC, senators buying tax clearance like recharge cards, a Budget Office that has gone silent on the biggest budget in history, and a government that travels the world giving speeches about transparency while accountability stays at home.
Come back with a current affairs programme, sharp, structured, uncomfortable, the kind of show where powerful people sweat under studio lights and ordinary Nigerians get the questions actually answered, hosted by a man who has already survived two public storms with his dignity completely intact, which means nobody can threaten him, blackmail him, or buy him with a land allocation.
Nigeria needs a broadcaster who has nothing left to lose and everything to say, and after what you have been through Frank, that man is you.
The show writes itself, the audience is already waiting, and this time when you ask the question, we will not be thinking about the money.
We will be thinking about the answer.
Is that your final answer Frank?
Make it count this time.
You were named RASHEEDAH(Righteous) you turned it to SHEEDDAH ( difficulty)
You were named HALEEMAH(gentle) you turned it to LEEMAH( wig)
You were named FAREEDAH(unique) you turned it to REEDAH( apostasy)
You were named FATEEMAH(abstinence) you turned it to TEEMAH( catastrophe)
You were named MANSURAH(victorious) you turned it to SURAH( photo)
You were named LATEEFAH(kind) you turned it to TEEFAH( ghost)
You were named BASEERAH, you turned it to SEERAH( History)
You were named SAKEENAH(Tranquility) you turned it to KEENAH( betrayal)
Astaghfirullah
The list is endless...... All in the name of fashion and civilization, before you short your name, know the meaning.
@doll_lenses@chinwenduofoeke@bhshayau@Rahma_sadau Ohh. If you think his comment comes off as an insult that's between your thoughts and the true intent of the commenter.
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Dear Parents,
Let me share a secret with you. I pray it benefits you.
After my post on the anatomical psychology of a child yesterday, I received some questions about how to help children who struggle to focus on their studies and what parents can do to help them. If your child or your children is struggling academically, or lose focus easily, then this post is for you.
What you are likely seeing is a child who starts a task but wanders off. You might see them staring at a book for an hour without remembering a single line. It is easy to think they are being lazy, but what you ought to see is a mind where the internal powers are not connected.
The Almighty God in the Quran mentions the Nasiyah in Surah Al-Alaq (96:15) as the place of decision and control. Science has shown this to be the prefrontal cortex, the part behind the forehead.
In Kitab al-Shifa, Ibn Sina identified a power box called Al-Quwwah al-Mutakhayyilah (the Composative Imagination). This power is the pilot of the brain. Its job is to take information and turn it into focused thought. When focus is gone, the bridge is broken.
To help them overcome this problem, you can use a mental drill called Reverse Narrating (RN). Reverse Narrating is a modern concept, but, it has root in our religion too.
The principle behind RN is deeply anchored in the works of Abu Zayd al-Balkhi. He is considered the father of Islamic psychology. In his book Masalih al-Abdan wa al-Anfus (Sustenance of the Soul), he talked about Riyadat al-Nafs (disciplining the mind). He taught that the mind needs specific "mental rehearsals" to regain control over wandering thoughts.
This mental rehearsals through reverse narrating is what you should adopt going forward because it forces the brain to reorganize information in a way that is not natural.
Here is how you can do it:
1.Ask your child what they are doing right this moment (when you call them).
2.Ask them what they did ten minutes before that.
3.Keep asking what happened before each step, moving backward through the day.
4.Continue until they reach the moment they woke up in the morning.
Do you know what you have done? You have just forced the Mutakhayyilah of your child to work in overdrive to pull data from the memory and flip it.
What this does is that It strengthens the pilot seat in their forehead. If you do this for a few minutes every evening, you would be building the mental glue your child needs to stay on a task. This is how struggling children improve their mental power and succeed in their studies. GIVE IT A TRY.
Allah knows best.
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"We have what we call NIREC (Nigeria Inter-Religious Council), and I was their coordinator for 10 years since former President Obasanjo appointed me in 1999. It's something I have committed to, but when this issue of Christian genocide occurred, I saw that the issue of interfaith in Nigeria is largely about deceit, because at no time did those people we later discovered were signing letters about genocide to the US mention it at any of our meetings. Then, how do you relate with such people, people who abhor hatred? Muslims in interfaith should be conscious of deceit."
Prof. Is-haq Oloyede, Secretary-General, Nigerian Supreme Council for Islamic Affairs (NSCIA