Walking home after an impeccable dinner on a 64 degree 0 humidity night in NYC. The Knicks are being streamed in every bar and even projected onto walls outside. I get to my apt and my partner and meta hand me a spliff. My dog curls onto my lap. My life is nice.
just saw someone doin a ritual of bacon egg and cheese, timbs and a pic of a mouse and pigeon in a circle with candles for the knicks chip on insta, MY CITY HAS NEVER BEEN MORE UP
New Yorkers: it is your basic civic duty when leaving the subway station to hold the gates open for anyone waiting to get in for free. shirking of this responsibility should result in immediate expulsion fuckouttahere lol.
For the first time yesterday, I experienced the new @alamodrafthouse QR code ordering system and I can tell you it’s truly awful. Rather than making ordering food and drink more efficient, it actually adds steps to the process AND if you want to order additional items during the film you HAVE to open your phone. No, your cute reference to that irony in your How To Alamo video doesn’t negate how ridiculous this is. Please don’t cut corners with your staff and revert back to physical menus and order cards.
I am overstimulated and overheated but my Lyft just came and he’s got the AC on high, WBGO jazz playing, and has tinted windows so it’s dark and I swear to god I might marry this man.
happy pride to everybody who saw the predominant ways of the world and knew, somewhere deep and undeniable inside of them, there was another way to be.
happy pride to everybody not just carrying queer legacies but also forging new paths, knowing the costs
thank you
Mamdani put out an easy to use hub for all the free and cheap stuff kids, teens & families can do during the summer, which is the kind of city service that feels so obvious it’s wild no one has done it before — I love this. https://t.co/4OqUZ53AE3
Requiring doctor’s notes to excuse sick days is inherently classist in a country without universal healthcare, and it is wild how little that is discussed.
This has a clinical name. Revenge bedtime procrastination. And the ADHD version runs on a completely different mechanism than the neurotypical one.
A neurotypical person stays up late because they want more leisure time. The ADHD brain stays up because it spent every drop of dopamine it had on executive function during the day. Sitting in meetings, managing transitions, filtering impulses, remembering the thing you were supposed to remember. That burns through dopamine the way sprinting burns through glycogen. By 10pm the tank is empty.
But here's where it gets counterintuitive. The exhaustion is physical. The dopamine deficit is neurological. Those are two separate systems. Your muscles want sleep. Your prefrontal cortex is starving for the stimulation it was denied all day because it spent 14 hours on task-switching and impulse control instead of anything that actually felt rewarding.
The phone at midnight is the brain trying to collect what it's owed. Low-effort, high-stimulation content. Scrolling, short videos, rabbit holes. The exact profile of activity that delivers dopamine without requiring the executive function you already depleted.
The sleep researchers call this a "self-regulation failure." It's closer to a debt collection. You borrowed against your own reward system to function all day. The bill comes due at midnight. And the brain will not let you sleep until it gets paid.