People who can't communicate always think you arguing. You could be calm, talking clear, just trying to address something, and they still turn it into drama. Because they don't know how to talk stuff out, they only know how to react. So they get defensive, start bringing up old stuff, do anything but deal with the real issue. That's why you can't fix nothing with certain people, they don't want a conversation, they want a problem.
Manipulation is making you feel crazy for reacting to their disrespect, then acting like you’re the problem. Accountability owns the harm. Everything else is control.
You might think life sucks right now but at least you're not typing a massive paragraph to an emotionally immature person explaining how to treat you right.
A MAN who CAN'T admit when HE wrong.. will DRAIN the LIFE outta YOU. Every ARGUMENT turn into a DEFENSE case. Every TIME he MESS up, it's an EXCUSE. Every TIME you CALL him out, some how YOU the PROBLEM. He'll FLIP the WHOLE story before he EVER say, "Yeah... I was WRONG." After a while, you STOP trying to FIX shít because you REALIZE you ain't ARGUING with somebody looking for the TRUTH... you ARGUING with somebody trying to WIN. And THAT type of SHÌT get EXHAUSTING REAL quick 💯
Find somebody who not scared to say they miss you, who check on you without you begging, who show love without you having to remind them, who make time because they want to, not because you kept asking. Find somebody who stand on business bout you in public and in private, who don't get to acting different when y'all not on speaking terms, who don't treat leaving like it's always an option. Folks think showing affection corny because they used to half effort and temporary situations. But real love don't feel like you doing too much by loving someone and it feels good waking up choosing someone that's choosing you too.
Baby there somebody out there that’s on everything you on, wanna go places with you, text back in a timely manner, wants to see you succeed, wanna see you happy , love your energy & adds to it.. simply just loves everything about YOU. We really be wasting good time & energy on people you gotta force to do those things.
It's impossible to have a healthy relationship with someone who is defensive and refuse to take accountability.
Their behavior is information not a challenge to try harder.
Defensiveness and lack of accountability are ways they protect themselves from shame.
It's easier for them to minimize how you feel, justify their actions, or shift blame, than it is to look themselves in the mirror.