"My husband used to be a pilot before he lost his job for 11 months. He then had a meeting with me and said we have to cut down our expenses. First of all, we have two cars. One car needs to go.
And I was like, I'm not going back to sharing a car. I mean, 'I need the car on Friday. Where are you? Please be coming back. I don't want that.โ
He also said we have to lay off two of our domestic staffs. We had about four staff members, so two needed to go. I was like, โMe, I like comfort. I don't want to be doing all these things. Why? I'm still making money now. I'm still working.โ
And he was like, because there's only one income. So everything must be cut down.
So, obviously, he had to take up a lot of responsibility around the house as well, and he was willing to do it. The thing about it is that he led by example. He wasn't just saying, this is what we're going to do. He was showing me.
One of the things that burst people's brains was that he actually came to work for my company. He used to come to the office, and he was earning a salary. I to that was humility. He came to work for his wife in the office with other staff members. He would have to go and do deliveries for my customers.
At that time I had to be extra careful. Not because he had an issue working for me, but because I wanted to make sure that I still honoured him during that time. I believe in the Word of God. I believe that my husband was still the leader.
Leadership is not about how much money you make. It's about the position you have in the home, regardless.
So I still gave him that respect. During that period, I was very careful about certain things I did or said that may not have been an issue before, because the heart of my partner was very important during such a time.
We went through that period together, and the process actually brought us closer. We became very close.
He wasn't just sitting down. He went on a fast, he was praying, he was cooking, he was cleaning, and he was doing all the things he was supposed to do as a man. He wasn't just sitting there being depressed.
And he told me, โShould anything ever happen to me, I want you to know how to lead..."
- Woman shares how her husband worked in her company after losing his pilot job, saying the experience strengthened their marriage.
@DrJoeAbah Ezemmwo, as in the proverb you quoted, I suspect "they" have realised there might be other ways to resolve this issue than by the use of force. They must explore that. ๐
A 24-year-old Polish tennis player arrived in Paris last week ranked 114th in the world, with no sponsors, no guaranteed income, and no certainty she could even pay for her hotel room.
She had to win three qualifying matches just to enter the French Open main draw. Prize money is only paid at the end of the tournament, so a Polish sports drink brand quietly stepped in and covered her hotel bill.
Her name is Maja Chwalinska. And today, she plays in the French Open final.
Before this tournament, she had won exactly one Grand Slam main draw match in her entire career. She had battled depression so severe that in 2021 she couldn't get out of bed. She underwent knee surgery in 2022. She spent years grinding through small tournaments across Europe just to stay afloat.
Then she arrived in Paris, won three qualifiers, and kept winning. Zheng Qinwen. Elise Mertens. Maria Sakkari. Diana Shnaider. Nine straight matches. One set dropped.
She is now the first qualifier in French Open history to reach the final. The last time a qualifier reached a Grand Slam final, it was Emma Raducanu at the 2021 US Open. Raducanu won.
By simply making the final, Chwalinska has earned more prize money than her entire career combined. The runner-up cheque alone is $1.6 million. If she wins today, she takes home $3.25 million.
One week ago she couldn't pay for her hotel room.
@DrJoeAbah I do oh. Sometimes I question my rationale for doing that. Sometimes, I would deliberately not do just to see if it will get angry and not answer my prompt. ๐
2 years ago, I quit my job to focus on building my company. Got depressed a few weeks later from the breaking my regular routine and not seeing salary alert by month end.
My mom learnt of this, came home one day & spent the day with me, encouraged me then filled my car tank. ๐๐ฝ
In 2018, I lost my job in Lagos. Hid it from family for 4 months.
Every morning, dressed up, carried a laptop bag, and left the house like normal. Sat in a buka in Yaba with free Wi-Fi applying endlessly.
One day, my dad called me aside.
โI know you lost your job.โ
I froze.
He said, โI didnโt want to shame you. A man feels small when he canโt provide.โ
Then he gave me โฆ20k from pension, with his arthritis bills piling up. โHold yourself. Donโt tell your mother.โ
I cried that night. Not for money. But for the quiet love protecting my pride.
Two months later, a better job came.
Now I pay all his bills.
That โฆ20k wasnโt cash. It was belief. And belief changes everything.
Do you have moments when your parents stood by you?
Learned Counsel @egi_nupe , please take a look at the Code of Conduct for Public Officers in our Constitution. It doesnโt matter that you would have awarded the contract anyway. You shall not collect. Below is from a lecture I gave recently on the topic.
@DanielRegha@DanielRegha, maybe you could also invest some of your time into understanding basic economics. These days, even @grok can help you understand these things.