One thing about me: I may take a long time to give up on you, but once I do, there is no version of me waiting around for you to become somebody I can love again.
At this stage of my life, I donโt need perfect communication. I need emotionally safe communication. Where we can disagree, recalibrate, apologize, laugh later, and still feel like weโre on the same team.
Iโm very adamant about not having people around who repeatedly disrupt my nervous system through their lack of care, empathy, and consideration. Get away from me.
in order to become a better person, you must first realize how horrible you really are. not in the dramatic sense, but in the quiet ways you sabotage yourself, repeat unhealthy patterns, hurt people who care about you, or tolerate what wounds you. you cannot grow if you keep pretending you're innocent in the story you've created.
Fun fact:
If youโre only valued when youโre radiant, sensual and sweet but not when youโre sad, frustrated, or needing emotional depth then youโre being objectified and this goes for friendships too
I donโt judge a ngga by his wallet. I judge him by how he move when temptation hit, how he treat people that canโt do nothing for him, and whether his actions match his words. Anybody can make moneyโฆ not everybody got principles.
when i say โim just a girlโ, that means ive exhausted all resources to understand something or to do it myself and i need someone elseโs expertise to step in
Unfortunately, I do want a provider. I do want a protector. I do want a leader. I do want a dominant man. I do want emotional maturity and effective communication. I do want mental stability. I do want to be spoiled. I do want self awareness. I do want clingy, obsessed and safe. I do want someone who chooses me every time. And nobody is going to make me feel bad for wanting those things in a partner.