If i am being honest, half the things i went through are in fact because of me; my lack of discipline, not listening to my gut feelings, and my poor decision-making.
LITTLE SHIT MATTERS‼️ Telling her how pretty she is, hugging her, planning dates, kissing her, buying her some food even tho she didn’t ask 4 any, buying her flowers or something u knew she needed... It all matters... Something so small can make a woman so happy..
"Dealing with a REAL MAN WILL MAKE YOU REALIZE you DONT have to ask a man that really desires you for anything. Not a date night, not money, not time not affection, Im talking about ABSOLUTELY NOTHING‼️ When a man REALLY desires you, he moves different for you on his OWN. It’s a pleasure for him to do the most for you💯"
I don't ask for much... honestly I barely ask for anything at all. So when the bare minimum can't even be done for me, yeah... it hit different... that tells me everything I need to know
being in a healthy relationship has taught me that there’s no such thing as “this is who I am, take it or leave it”. when you genuinely love a person, you work on those toxic traits, you learn to communicate, you listen to each other’s feelings and encourage individuality
Forcing a relationship or a friendships to work after God has repeatedly gave you signs it's not met to work, is like wearing shoes that doesn't fit you but you forcing yourself to walk in it cause you like the shoes meanwhile your feet is hurting, learn to let go.
The worst feeling for a woman is when she tries to have a real conversation with a man about his behavior that hurts her, but instead of listening, he gets angry and turns it around on her. It cuts deep, a mix of frustration, sadness, and emotional abandonment. She isn’t trying to argue; she’s trying to be heard, to heal, to make things better.
But instead of understanding, he gets defensive. Instead of acknowledging her pain, he deflects, blames, or mocks. Suddenly, the issue isn’t what she said it’s how she said it. And just like that, her pain gets buried under his anger.
What hurts most isn’t the argument it’s the message behind it: Your feelings don’t matter. Your pain is inconvenient. Your voice is too much. That becomes a silent wound, forcing her to shrink herself just to keep the peace. But peace without understanding isn’t peace it’s silence.
Eventually, she starts to question herself: “Maybe I’m too sensitive.” “Maybe I should just let it go.” But deep down, she knows better. Because when a woman speaks up about her pain, it’s not an attack it’s a gift. It’s her saying, I still care enough to fix this. And when that moment is met with anger instead of care, something inside her starts to shut down for good.
When people don't consider you in the same way you consider them, let them go. There's actually so many people in the world that can match your energy and love you the way you love.
ngl every time someone says “i’m proud of you” or “you’re doing great” it makes me tear up a little. i don’t think anyone understands how hard i am on myself.
you’re allowed to fall in love during your healing process btw, someone will love the unhealed version of you. you’re worthy of love even when you’re not the best version of yourself.