Males think they're brave enough to fight a gorilla but in reality they’re not even brave enough to tell their friend to stop making women uncomfortable.
You are the common denominator in every single one of your recurring interpersonal disasters. If you find yourself constantly surrounded by narcissists, repeatedly betrayed by friends, or perpetually unappreciated at work, it isn't just bad luck it is your unconscious boundaries, or lack thereof. You are subconsciously teaching people exactly how much disrespect you are willing to tolerate in exchange for not being alone, making you an active participant in your own exploitation.
According to psychology, the urge to immediately fix a partner’s or friend’s distress instead of just sitting with them in it isn't empathy; it is your own low frustration tolerance. When someone you love is hurting, and you instantly jump into problem-solving mode, offering unsolicited advice or trying to find a silver lining, you are often trying to soothe your own secondary anxiety. You aren't rescuing them from their pain; you are rescuing yourself from the discomfort of witnessing a vulnerability you don't know how to hold.
All you gotta do is get so deviously betrayed and bamboozled one time in your life of purity to change the entire trajectory of your relationships to any human ever
That’s why there’s a whole lot of insecure adults. They weren’t given basic respect as kids. Kids are one of the most oppressed people and everyone just calls them annoying.