Once you realize how CONFRONTATIONAL your own presence can be you’ll learn how selective you have to be. Cuz you can just be doing u & it make a mf realize how insecure, worthless, and lame THEY are & now they’re new project is tryna tear u down and humble u everyday.
a girl on tiktok said “healing is so hard because it is a constant battle between your inner child who is scared and just wants safety.... your inner teenager who is angry and just wants justice.... and your current self-who is tired and just wants peace." and it hits me hard.
Nobody wants to work anymore because the reward is gone. Half of us are living paycheck to paycheck, with no savings for retirement or a house. Two paychecks away from homelessness. This is not laziness, it is pure exhaustion.
I learned how to be my own support because at the end of the day I’m the one that gotta make sure I’m straight. I stopped expecting people to show up for me the same way I show up for them. I handle what I gotta handle, figure things out on my own, and keep going regardless. Having people around is cool, but I know better than to depend on anybody more than I depend on myself.
Don’t ever be embarrassed about your life. We all go through things that shake us, humble us, or force us to start over. Moving back home, losing your job, getting your heart broken, going through a divorce, hitting a low mentally… it’s all a part of being human.
“I want a soft, feminine, traditional woman”
SHUT UP. What you actually want is someone who COOKS, CLEANS, stays ATTRACTIVE for you, and revolves her LIFE around your needs.
That’s not about softness, nurturing, or femininity... it’s about CONTROL and CONVENIENCE.
You don’t want a PARTNER. You want someone who gives EVERYTHING and asks for NOTHING in return.
You want a SERVICE.
Ladies please don’t relax when you are in a relationship, go to gym, do your monthly beauty maintenance, look beautiful and go out with your friends to have fun and continue posting yourself. Take care of yourself. Don’t let a man make you weak you’ll regret it.
"You hate men"
No I don't, I hate abusive men, manipulative men, controlling men, cheating men, gaslighting men, emotionally unavailable men, disrespectful men, insecure men who punish others for it, men who think accountability is an attack...
And good men know the difference.
I just saw a quote that said, “You worry too much for someone who figures it out every time” and I feel like I’m not the only one who needs to hear that.
You can always tell when somebody been waiting to beef with you. They don't even need a real reason. They been watching, hating, and saving it up. The moment they get a chance, it come spilling out. That ain't conflict, that's jealousy finally getting tired of being quiet.
She's a 10 but she matured off of pain not age. She uses her voice by her silence. She notices change, and gets nervous when you're "off". She isolates herself & gets distant when she doesn't feel understood, but she cares the most. No one would love you more than she does.