Protect whatever you're doing legitimately to feed yourself.
Place your value in your legitimate earnings & refuse to bow to any pressure to impress a woman.
And that includes your wife.
If she wants a better life at the expense of your integrity, tell her to go.
End.
So men let me repeat.
Please if you continue to notice that your wife is constantly trying to catch you in infidelity, always wanting to snoop on your phones, questions your whereabouts unprovoked.
Start your discreet investigations, you may discover gold.
End.
A quick science lesson for my people. 😂
Why do wet dreams happen?
I saw that issue a lot on the TL today, and I don't know why it's trending.
Part of it is simply biology.
The male body is constantly producing sperm. If a man goes a long time without ejaculation, the body may naturally release some of it during sleep. Think of it as the body occasionally emptying part of the storehouse to make room for new supplies.
Then there is the brain.
While you sleep, your brain is still very busy. It sorts through memories, thoughts, imaginations, emotions, things you saw yesterday, things you worried about, and sometimes turns them into a movie.
That is why some people have sexual dreams before a wet dream, while others wake up wondering what just happened. 😂
So before somebody concludes that every wet dream is a spiritual attack, or that you secretly fell in love with the person that appeared in it, remember that sometimes your body is simply following the biology manual God built into it.
A wet dream is not a sin.
The brain is running night shift.
The body is doing maintenance.
And you are there snoring peacefully, unaware of the meeting taking place. 😂
When you're angry with your wife, and you raise your voice at her, what is she most likely to do?
She would grab any of your children and starts to shed tears or acting up.
Then your children will start to see you as a wicked daddy.
That's how it starts.
But I believe this is nature playing out in marriage.
Just because you don't want to be seen as a "wicked" father or husband, doesn't mean that you should not act when it's appropriate to do so.
You're the head of the home.
And for women, it should always be a "carrot and stick" approach.
Otherwise, anything you allow, will become the norm.
So there you have it.
Until you're mature, your mother will forever be a saint.
End.
Imagine if he had invested that N300k plus other monies he had been giving to her at just 24. By the time he gets to 30, with careful financial planning and discipline, he would be prepared to be a husband and father.
Let me repeat:
Your girlfriend is supposed to invest in you and make sacrifices for you, while you invest and sacrifice for the future of both of you.
But lack of patience and foresight and the love for toto is taking a huge toll on you young men.
And greed has taken a toll on you young girls.
A young man who is just starting life deserves to be in a relationship. It's how he would find his future wife and the mother of his future children.
It's not a period for him to waste scarce resources.
It's a period of vetting, cohabiting, helping each other, and living a prudent or frugal life..
Then he starts to build his life brick by brick while you, the girlfriend, support him, while he also leads you towards the right path and in line with your future goals and aspirations.
Stop all these transactional relationships you people are doing..
They're unhealthy, and they create unnecessary entitlement, lack of focus and misplaced priorities.
You should have sex if you want.
But sex should not be sold in your relationship.
He would always spend on you, but it should not be seen as a compensation for sex.
How will he spend on you?
1. When you go on dates.
2. When you cohabit with him from time to time.
3. When he wants to get you gifts.
4. Then occasionally dash you money.
Not him paying for your rent.
Not him buying expensive phones, hairs, shoes, bags etc.
Not him paying for your school fees.
And certainly not him buying you sanitary pads or feeding your family.
And all his earnings must be legitimate.
This is what young people in relationships should practice.
Contentment, discipline, and reasonable financial planning and future ambitions.
By the time you keep at it, you'd be building a healthy relationship and setting the proper foundations for your future, and possibly, marriage.
You would have earned your place, and be proud of yourselves.
Make no mistakes; you will definitely make mistakes.
You'll fight, quarrel, and even curse at each other.
It doesn't have to lead to breakups.
As long as no red lines are crossed.
Use each fight, quarrel, or misunderstanding as a teaching moment.
Where you have to apologize, do so.
Where you have to be accountable, do so.
Where you have to be transparent, do so.
This is my gospel for you all, this beautiful wet morning.
End.
Let me say a few things.
Men and women need each other no doubt, but men & women must need each other, according to how nature has designed us, & our roles.
I've always said, that the role of a man is independent, while that of the woman is dependent.
So, if you find yourself
This is how my lovely wife and I practice our marriage.
I don't know of any other marriage that would produce a better result than this one.
You Gen Zs need proper mentorship and guidance.
Your iberibe is too much.
Someone will soon come under this to give AI comment.
End.
As a man, one harsh truth I’ve accepted is that nobody is coming to save you.
Most people only respect results, not excuses or struggles.
You have to keep going even when you’re tired, confused, or fighting battles silently.