Our media is in total blackout.
In case you don’t know what’s happening, yesterday over 15 NYSC members were kidnapped. Nobody is talking about it because the media is obeying Tinubu’s instructions.
These are people’s children; their parents spent years of hard work training them in university. 💔🤯
I know a number of people who didn’t marry their “spec” but are in the healthiest marriages I know. Their spec was typically whatever was culturally deemed to be at the apex of the attractiveness pyramid when they were growing up. For a lot of guys in my generation, it was the music video “vixens” from the late 90s/early 2000s Hip & R&B music videos with ‘coke bottle figures’ and or light skinned eurocentric features. When it’s time to find a partner for the very serious endeavor of sharing a life with, that “spec” is simply inadequate as a measure of compatibility and that’s understandable. The foolishness though is communicating it as though their partner somehow didn’t measure up to their “spec” instead of simply admitting that the idea of their spec was stupid all along and a young boy’s lack of wisdom of what makes a good life partner.
Communicating publicly or even privately to your partner that they weren’t your spec to begin with may seem harmless, after-all you’re just being honest. But subconsciously, it’s an ego trip for you who “settled” and for your the partner, it’s a chip they will always carry on their shoulder that to you, they aren’t quite enough. They’re missing something you had always longed for, so much so that you still consider it to be your “spec”. It’s an unnecessary mind fuck and a cruel thing to say about somebody who is sharing a life with you. No matter how flowery you are with the compliments that come after. You’ve already knocked them down several pegs.
If the point is to say your spec changed then talk about the stupidity of having a spec to begin with. Because I’ve never heard anyone in these situations talk about character attributes being their spec, it’s always superficial stuff. Or speak about how meeting your partner opened your eyes to what true beauty is. Speak in ways that elevate and affirm your partner.
I understand that current state of our economy has forced a lot of people to find multiple sources of income BUT a lot of you have absolutely no business being entrepreneurs.
Na only NYSC camp I see wey them dey force people to party.😭
I say I wan sleep, you say I must do social night, mind you, them go sound bugle at exactly 4:30am.
THEY ARE STILL IN CAPTIVITY!
THEY ARE STILL IN CAPTIVITY!
THEY ARE STILL IN CAPTIVITY!
THEY ARE STILL IN CAPTIVITY!
THEY ARE STILL IN CAPTIVITY!
THEY ARE STILL IN CAPTIVITY!
THEY ARE STILL IN CAPTIVITY!
THEY ARE STILL IN CAPTIVITY!
THEY ARE STILL IN CAPTIVITY!
This video is a call for help.
My mum is battling with stroke, and it is slowly taking her life. She needs urgent medical funds to stay alive, and I cannot do this alone anymore. Please, if you have it in your heart to help or retweet this to someone who can, I beg of you 🤲🏻🙏