No-one should try to kill me or even fight me over man. If we're dealing with the same man just let me know and I'll release him to you. No man is worth even a scratch on my face
I can’t stand a nigga that’s tit for tat like your main purpose as a man is to lead and be logical, so why tf are you mirroring me and things I do out of emotion? Who tf gone be the man if we both acting like bitches? 🧐
can't be submissive to a man that doesn't make you feel safe enough to be you. you're constantly in defense mode, your energy is withdrawn, your mind is anxious about what will happen next. there's no compliant heart in that environment, you just grow more indifferent with time.
Love language is time. And I don’t think people really get what that means. Time can’t be faked, replaced, or redone, when someone gives you their time, they’re giving you a piece of their life they’ll never get back. That’s sacred. When I say I want the longest, nastiest, healthiest, realist relationship ever, I’m not talking about perfect. I’m talking about real. About love that’s raw, honest, sometimes messy, but still safe. The kind where you’ve seen each other’s moods, scars, and flaws, and still choose each other.
Nasty means unfiltered.
Healthy means accountable and peaceful.
Real means showing up even when it’s hard.
If time is my love language, that means I don’t want inconsistent effort or distracted presence. I want intentional energy, the kind that’s steady, present, and real. Because love without time ain’t love, it’s convenience. And I’m not built for convenient love. I’m built for that forever, passionate, healing, real love.
For any women that needs to hear this. There are loving men out there. There are men who will sit and listen to you while you talk about something that bothered you. There are men out there that will take accountability and apologize. Who can be aware of their behavior and how it affected you? Men that you can grow with. Men that will make you feel appreciated. You don’t have to go through years of trauma with a man who doesn’t know how to communicate and has no emotional intelligence.
The kind of man who holds your face during an argument and says, "Breathe, we're not against each other." That's rare, that's healing, that's leadership without pride.
In a healthy relationship, your partner hears you out when you're upset; their goal is to avoid upsetting you in the future, not to debate whether you should have been upset in the first place❤️