There’s just this heaviness in your heart when you think about Nigeria because it doesn’t look like it gonna get better anytime soon
No amount of money can remove that feeling either
I can tell you this for free.
There are some situations where people can explain why a murder happened but there is none for rape.
“We were fighting and I pushed him and he fell and hit his head on a slab and died”
“He attacked my wife and I punched him and he died”
“He stole my life’s savings, I tracked him down and took his life”
So many murderers in prison have different excuses for why they committed murder. Could be revenge, could be a crime of passion, could even be an accident, could be self defense.
This is why nuance and context is considered during trials to determine whether a person is truly guilty and even the length of sentence the judge gives.
What you’ll never hear in your life is an excuse for rape.
“I was sexually frustrated and I would have died if I didn’t do it with her”
“I never nack for 3 months and my blood pressure was rising. She was the only one available”
“My penis has been erect for one week. I had to find a solution”
You see how foolish those things sound? That’s why you’ll never hear them because none of them are even near valid excuses.
There is 100% no justification for rape.
It is one of those crimes where the victim becomes a victim for life.
Some of us have had our pockets picked before and our phones and wallets stolen. We grieved over it, e pain us but eventually, we bought new and even better phones and moved on.
No one whose blackberry bold 3 was stolen 19 years ago still reflects about it and grieves over it. The person is no longer a victim.
But with rape, the victim is a victim forever. It is a lifetime of trauma.
IF A WOMAN SAYS NO, SHE MEANS IT. Leave her alone.
The Nigerian justice system is one of the biggest enablers of rape! Victims are always coerced to “settle” because a greedy fucktard couldn’t keep it in his pants.
We need to start the brutal and ruthless killing of men who rape women!
There is no justice anywhere!
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