My frontal lobe fully developed, and I realized that working a 9 to 5 job five days a week until I am 60 just so I can “enjoy” a few years when I am close to death is the worst idea I have ever seriously considered.
A peak life advice from Alex Hormozi:
“The single greatest skill you can develop is the ability to stay in a great mood in the absence of things to be in a great mood about.”
I don’t care about feeling seen at work. I don’t want to be involved in team-building activities or forced workplace bonding. I just want to do my job, get my paycheck, go home, and read books that make me feel human again.
A lot of MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES disappear when bills are paid, rent is secure, and the fridge is full. Peace is expensive. And pretending money doesn't affect mental health is privilege.
Real Luxuries in Life
1. Living 10 minutes from work
2. Living 5 minutes from the gym
3. Having quiet neighbors
4. Having money left at the end of the month and investing it
5. Peace at home
6. Drinking coffee without rushing
7. Sleeping with a clear conscience
8. Laughing with people who truly get you
9. Traveling every year
10. Waking up naturally without an alarm
11. Enjoying a home-cooked meal with loved ones
12. Having time to read a book in one sitting
13. Finding joy in simple daily routines
14. Having a pet that greets you happily at the door
These are the things that actually feel rich.
I have a friend who doesn’t tell anyone anything. You won’t know she’s about to move until she has already moved. You won’t know she’s getting a car until she already has one. Even the problems between her and her boyfriend are none of our business.
I used to think she wasn’t being a good friend because she didn’t share her personal life. But now I understand why she doesn’t. It’s nothing personal, she just keeps her business private. And as I get older, I definitely see why.
Even in close friendships, learn to mind your own business. If they’re not sharing something with you, it’s likely because they don’t want you to know or they’re just not ready yet. You’re not entitled to know everything happening in their life at all times.
Never tell your coworkers your business. Never get too buddy-buddy with the boss. When livelihoods are on the line, you’ll be the first one thrown under the bus and discarded. Talking too much, divulging too much personal information at work never benefits you.
I Told my Therapist:
“I feel safest when I do everything alone.” She didn't even ask why. She just said, "That's not independence. That's grief. And I swear. I felt something in me break open.
Because it is grief, isn't it? Grief for every time you asked for help and no one showed up. Grief for being the child who had to hold it all together while everyone else fell apart. Grief for realizing way too young, that no one was ever really coming to save you. You didn't choose to be strong. You had to be.