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[Heidi @insaeii]

@CachetMarie Corbezzolo in Italian (maybe strawberry tree?), I see these on the coast in Liguria

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Unexpected walk towards the rising sun

[The Art Curator @SeekAfterBeauty]

Crystal Waves, by Patrick von Kalckreuth (1892-1970)

[hoe_math = PsychoMath @ItIsHoeMath]

This is a great topic. I already addressed this in my Self-Maximize series with my "association triangle" exercise (see image). I may get deeper into it one day.

If you want to grow as a person, it is NECESSARY to recognize the pain and suffering you have felt in the past and how it shapes your perceptions. You can't both avoid it and become mentally stronger.

The point of knowing your "trauma" is not to dwell on it or to use it as an excuse. It's to understand your own mind so you can operate it better.

I'll give you an example from my life.

When I was 23, I had a terrible girlfriend who mistreated me pretty badly. After the relationship, I started examining my childhood and found that I had been treated in ways that made her treatment of me feel normal.

I would try to be good, she would respond with abusive behavior (threats, insults, and violence), and I would think: "OK, I just wasn't good ENOUGH. Gotta try harder!"

I was "always bad" as a child (never true of children), so I learned "accept that I am bad and self-punish to get acceptance." This characteristic followed me into all of my relationships and friendships. It never worked. Self-punishing made them hurt me MORE.

The correct choice was to not be around anybody who treats me that way. I just never saw it as an option because my childhood fit the same pattern, so I had nothing to compare it to. I assumed EVERYONE'S home life was like this. Until the end of that relationship, I had never even considered the possibility that maybe I am not fundamentally "bad."

I did not use this self-discovery to justify ending up in bad relationships or to intensify my victim status. I used it to avoid people who reinforced my old self-perception and find people who helped me build a new one.

If I had never done the work of looking at my childhood, I would never have changed that pattern. I probably would never have reached for anything worthwhile in life, since I "did not deserve it."

You may or may not think that "trauma" is a gay word. It doesn't matter. You don't have to say it to other people. You just can't ignore it, or it rules over you forever. You also can't use it as a label like it's your astrology sign.

Think of your mind like a car. It doesn't make you tough to keep driving with broken parts. It makes you irresponsible and unreliable. You have to replace them. It also doesn't make you weak to admit that some parts are broken. The point is not to cry about it and beg for a free ride. The point is to know how to fix it.

[𝑨𝒓𝒕 🎨 @_ArtMuseum]

The Misty Pond of Villeneuve, by Henri Biva (1910)

[Heidi @insaeii]

muddy woods turned into cheerful post-carnival street; cherry petals and loud birds

[Heidi @insaeii]

@karski_adam @Rainmaker1973 You're welcome, and me too. You'd probably love Iceland then, if you ever get a chance to visit

[Heidi @insaeii]

@karski_adam @Rainmaker1973 Most of them don't. In the summer months they are brought in the mountains (same as the sheep), stay there until beginning of autumn. Then they live in huge fields, in herds. Whenever you pass near the wire, even in the middle of nowhere, they come say hi, very friendly

[Heidi @insaeii]

@karski_adam @Rainmaker1973 They bring them hay, but they are fine to live outside on the snow, they get very fluffy

[Heidi @insaeii]

@uberboyo There's an interesting video exactly about this

https://t.co/ZA66tpye3q

[Heidi @insaeii]

@smilingtomatoo so che é tardissimo, per caso ti serve ancora? (solo 1)

[𝐕𝐚𝐥𝐤𝐲𝐫𝐢𝐞🪽 @soulful_indigo]

Ignoring the truth will cost you more than facing it ever will.

[Massimo @Rainmaker1973]

A large mass of lava moving at 1920 m, immediately after sunset on Mt Etna

[📹 vincigreco]

[Heidi @insaeii]

2/2

[Heidi @insaeii]

147.
From old Florentine novellas—moreover, from life: "Buona femmina e mala femmina vuol bastone".—Sacchetti, Nov. 86.

- Nietzsche, Beyond Good and Evil

The novella he's referring to (and below the original version in Italian):

[Heidi @insaeii]

Novella 86 di Franco Sacchetti (continua sotto) 1/2

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https://t.co/EEztWUcZoP

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https://t.co/catMJKLchy

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one of those statues

[James Lucas @JamesLucasIT]

What is the most beautiful bridge on Earth?