Got a big win today in court and all I can think about the one person I want to talk to about it. Im sad because I pushed that woman away due to my unhealed nature and potential insecurities. Good and bad day at the same time.
Q1. My one wish as a Black man who loves Black women is for y'all to be honest, upfront, and stop playing games with us. It's tiring. I'm exhausted. I've been in a relationship with Quina for 2 1/2 years; she got me hyped about my big birthday trip that she planned. I considered that maybe, JUST MAYBE, I might ask her to be my wife when we arrived at the secret destination. So, it's my birthday. I get dressed. She blindfolds me and walks me to the car. Our suitcases were on the back seat. She's playing my fave playlist as I try to guess where we're going. Thirty minutes later she pulls into the parking spot, unloads the car and takes my hand. She gently walks me to the front porch, of my pregnant side chick's house. Those weren't OUR bags that she packed, they were mine. My side chick is cussing I rip off the mask and catch a glimpse of Quina peeling away from the curb with a huge grin on her face. I want to go back home. I want forgiveness. But first, I want Quina to apologize for the trauma. Advice. #SBCCHAT
Q5. Out of the blue, a friend asked me to design her wedding dress. She would come periodically for her fitting and things were going well. She showed me her fiancé, and their little kittens. We talked about her garden and how her peppers were huge. I got jealous. I hated her. I began to take in the seams little by little so that she thought she was gaining weight at each fitting. She panicked; I laughed. I researched her fiancé and stalked him online. I sent nasty xxx DMs from my fake pages. He didn’t reply. She decided not to buy my dress because the fit was so awful and she refused to pay me so I dragged her online. He reached out to me and asked me to remove the posts because it hurts her feelings. I said I would if he met me in person. He agreed. I tried to put my mouth on him, but he made me stop. What STRAIGHT MAN turns down a bl0wj0b? Should I expose him for being g@y? Clearly he is. Thoughts? #SBCCHAT
Q3. I chased this woman for like a year before she gave me any play. We get in a relationship. I treat her nice. I buy her little things here and there cuz I like her. She gets pregnant with my baby and suddenly I hate her. It feels like she’s a burden to me. I was dating her. I didn’t date her to bring another mouth into this relationship. I didn’t date her to have this responsibility and I tried to be nice and tell her that I think she should focus on her career and motherhood; she probably should not be a single mother. And she acts like it’s a miracle you know she’s like, “I know we’ll have a cute baby.” NO, we won’t. WE won’t have sh!t, cuz I’m not gonna be around. I told her that I’m not making the kind of money I wanna make and I’m not ready to have any kids with you and I said that and she just ignores me. What can I do to entice her to not make this mistake because I’m not gonna be with her I’m not gonna be responsible. I don’t have the money to pay child support. None of that’s gonna happen. Even 10 years from now, none of that’s gonna happen. I wanted a date not a family. Help. #SBCCHAT
Q6. My sugar daddy got a cancer diagnosis and so he’s a little depressed because he thinks he’s about to die. He doesn’t want to do the treatment for it because he don’t wanna lose his hair and he’d be too weak for s3x. (His stroke game is lopsided and slow now so I understand his concern.) But anyway he keeps mentioning that he loves me and he wants us to die together. I’m not interested in checking out right now, you know, and I told him clearly if you thinking about death or you want a death pact or whatever you go first—I’ll catch up with you in the afterlife. I stay with him because I need money and he’s generous but every time I hang around he’s bringing up the fact that, you know, we need to check out together so he won’t be alone in the afterlife. I ain’t with it, but I can’t leave him right now cuz I need money, so advice please. #TheSaxophoneIsGettingLouder. #SBCCHAT