instantmummy

once career girl, now single mum, with adopted SEN child. National media: [email protected]

[instantmummy @instantmummy]

@bbc5live @NickyAACampbell Very moved by Andrew #adoption today. Offering support to him & others via 2 groups I'm in, helping families & fighting for change. Parent-led as most of our support comes from each other https://t.co/WgMqIqC7je & https://t.co/ogs5SgdSw5 Please pass on

[instantmummy @instantmummy]

@ThePOTATOgroup

[BBC Woman's Hour @BBCWomansHour]

‘We’ve heard from mothers that it's a ‘broken system’’

Woman’s Hour is airing a special programme all about SEND (Special Educational Needs and Disabilities) in September.

Do you have experience of navigating the SEND system? Perhaps you’re looking for advice?

Get in touch ⬇️

[BBC Woman's Hour @BBCWomansHour]

‘We’ve heard from mothers that it's a ‘broken system’’

Woman’s Hour is airing a special programme all about SEND (Special Educational Needs and Disabilities) in September.

Do you have experience of navigating the SEND system? Perhaps you’re looking for advice?

Get in touch ⬇️

[instantmummy @instantmummy]

@elly_chapple @lawcommission @CerebraCharity @DrChrisMooreEP @CommonSenseSLT @chrisdysonHT @CaptainK77 I have heard the Post Office comment said before elsewhere too

[Helen Bonnick @helenbonnick]

Published today… https://t.co/RygY4bZrex

[Helen Bonnick @helenbonnick]

Check out this important research looking at the experience of SG and adopters of older children and young people. Can you take part?

[Jessie Hewitson @jessiehewitson]

Pretty much every child excluded at primary school has SEND. Every so often a stat stops you in your tracks, and this is one of them.

[instantmummy @instantmummy]

I know our tutors have struggled and that's not with PDA, though PTSD can look a bit like it sometimes

[Laura Kerbey @LauraKerbey]

When you support a learner with #PDA you should also make sure you look after yourself.

Any anxiety or frustration you feel is likely to be picked up by a learner with PDA.

Do not be afraid to ask for help when needed.

Illustration: @_MissingTheMark

[instantmummy @instantmummy]

4/4 Meanwhile the teacher is having fun on their holiday whilst you are vomiting because you are too scared to go to school.
This is not on. Things must change!" So sad. And this is years on, too. #traumainformed #traumainformedschools #homeeducation @TISUK_ @notfineinschool

[instantmummy @instantmummy]

1/4 This is something that my son, now educated at home with EOTAS, wrote unprompted although he has been talking about his time at school with his tutors. As an already traumatised child he had a horrible time, and after three schools none of whom could cope - #education #send

[instantmummy @instantmummy]

3/4 Nowadays if you are different everyone will just discard (sic) you and try and dismember (sic) your feelings in order to make you feel worthless and not come to anything. #education #schools #send

[instantmummy @instantmummy]

https://t.co/EGCzIM3g4E

[instantmummy @instantmummy]

"It's a rare parent who does not want the very best for their child..a serious and growing problem is that parents who want their children to receive a good quality education in school, are feeling forced to home educate them in order to address failures within our school system"

[instantmummy @instantmummy]

@naomicfisher @_MissingTheMark @NotFineinSchool @Rhea_EdPsych @EdPsychEd @HelenOakwater @SendCrisis @TISUK_ @EdOtherwise @BeaconHouseTeam @FamilyFuturesUK #education @teamsquarepeg #edpsych #educationalpsychology Is this something an ed psych could deal with? pls RT TIA

[instantmummy @instantmummy]

1/2 Can NE in #education help with boy so traumatised by school that he cant learn anything based on yrs 2,3 and 4 fundamental building blocks? NAt yr 10 he struggles at GCSE & almost goes into a dissociative state over aspects of learning which may echo primary #TEP #TwitterEP

[instantmummy @instantmummy]

2/2 No LD, reads adult books on subjects of interest, passed apprenticeship ready exams BUT cant cope with Maths & English needed to progress. Has to be EOTAS & told me & his tutor what happened in sch (borderline abuse tbh) and we dont know how we can get him over this #edpsych

[instantmummy @instantmummy]

in school The Boy (PTSD and CPTSD and known trauma history was constantly punished for not copting in what to him was an unsafe and stressful environment. As he said himself of school 'they could be more kind' which says it all really

[Naomi Fisher @naomicfisher]

Perhaps one of the most unhelpful ideas I’ve heard in behaviour is this. If we make kids unhappy enough, they’ll behave in the way that we want them to.

Of course, people rarely say it quite like that. They say things like ‘make home less fun so they choose school’ or ‘we have high expectations and the consequences for not meeting them are detention’ or even ‘let them off, let them down’, but what they mean is, you have to behave in the way I want you to, and if you don’t, I’ll make you unhappy until you do.

Kids notice this, and they resent it. It damages their relationships with adults and with themselves. And for some, it puts them on a spiral of unhappiness and deteriorating behaviour. Hours of detention and isolation, and it’s never ‘enough’. They don’t ‘get the message’. Because being deliberately made unhappy isn’t a good way to affect change.

You can’t punish someone into doing well.

[Dr Naomi Murphy @NMPsychologist]

Struggling to make a decision? Try listening to your body

I was trained in CBT and the idea that if you change how you think, you can change how you feel. For some people this worked well. But the majority of people I've worked with have histories of complex trauma and whilst they might intellectually know one thing, they very often feel another.

We now know that conversation between the brain and the body is not one sided. There's at least as much information flowing from other parts of our body like our stomach and our heart. And we haven't really paid enough attention to it.

Having had a brilliant supervisor who used person centred counselling with non-verbal adult clients, I thought I was pretty good at attending to what goes on in the body. Until I completed sensorimotor psychotherapy training. And saw how much was really being said by my clients and how much more can be achieved when the body gets involved in the conversation.

#sensorimotorpsychotherapy

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[Kim Golding @KimSGolding]

To celebrate the release of The Healing Relational Trauma Workbook next week I am giving away one copy. Follow, like and retweet for a chance to win. International okay. Winner announced end of February.